Post # 1
I’m a bride to be, and I have two very close male friends. I originally wanted to have a coed bridal party, but it didn’t work out well in the numbers, and my fiance didn’t like the idea, so we went with the traditional bridesmaids and groomsmen. I tried to get my fiance to include my close guy friends in his groomsmen, but he had too many close friends he wanted to include and was unable to do so. We’ve already finalized our wedding party.
My question is… Have any of you dealt with a similar issue? What did you do, if anything? I’ve heard about people making their close friends ushers and having them walk down the aisle to sort of honor them but not include them in the party. However, my fiance thinks it seems a little silly because we already have a lot of groomsmen that are more than capable of serving as ushers. Opinions? Has anyone ever done this? Any suggestions or maybe just words of comfort? It makes me really, really sad that two of my best friends won’t be a part of my wedding, but I know it might not be possible or smart logistically.
Post # 3
Maybe just ask them to be the primary ushers or do a reading or heck even marry you if you dont have a pastor or someone to do it yet
Post # 4
I would make them ushers, or give one of them a reading to do in the ceremony.
Post # 5
ithroughout went through the same situation!!! I have more guy friend than girl friends but we went with wall female “bridesmaids”. I ended up having two of my guy friends as ushers. They are going to hand out programs and help seat the guests. Because of them we are not having the groomsmen act as ushers. My Fiance agreed that that was a fair idea in order to include more people in our special day. Plus the chosen groomsmen already have jobs and special recognition. No need to have them do two jobs if you have others who could. Also my ushers are gong to walk our female readers down the aisle during the procession. Readings are a good way to include people too!
in general, I think you can double up on wedding duties if you don’t want to have a lot of people. But if you want to include other special someone’s you can divide and conquer – there’s lots to be done!
Hope your guys get to have a role in your day!!
Post # 6
idk i just don’t feel like it’s necessary to everyone you’re close to be a part of the bridal party/wedding ceremony. i guess you could have them do a reading or something if you really want them to be
Post # 7
Somebody has to be a guest…