Post # 1
Soooo I got this email this morning from the student I was partnering up with for our senior project. I was pulled from this project by our adviser who didn’t want it to negatively affect me as she wasn’t pulling her weight and the script was 2 months late into the process.
Which leaves me doing a solo project this fall and graduating late all due to things I couldnt control…… since this student has not taken responsibility for her actions in relation to me and to others affected by this.
In an email today she told me there were no hard feelings for quitting (as if I had a choice and did it on purpose)…. and that she wanted me to still design for her with no credit and also that she wanted to use my designs….
Good grief no!!! 🙁
I’m fed up with her and although there are no bad feelings on her end, I’m really tired of her thinking it’s not her fault that she affected me graduating on time by her late work on the project.
Um… no I would not like to be in charge of designing for the people who replaced me in the cast… nor do I want to make it easy for her to continue on as if nothing happened and that she gets to graduate this may when I do not.
Bitter? Yes…. but I don’t know how to turn her down without being rude. :/
Post # 3
Sorry no, but I am much to busy with my solo project to be of any assistance. Sorry about that, but I need to focus on my own grad. Requirement. no hard feelings,ok?
Post # 4
I’m a little confused as to the situation but if someone negatively me in that way (not graduating on time), there is NO WAY I would help them and I would talk with your advisor to make sure you and your designs are fully covered and protected from this person. You gotta stand up for yourself and your work.
Post # 5
What are you majoring in?
Hmm could you give the excuse that you have other commitments such as your solo project which you are handling alone and that you’re intent on graduating ASAP so you don’t want other commitments to get in the way?
Post # 6
Tell her no! Say, “I’m sorry, but now that I have to work on whole new project by myself, I have a lot of other obligations right now and don’t have time. Why don’t you ask (insert name of person who replaced you)?”
Okay, that’s catty, but seriously. Try to be polite, but SHE DELAYED YOUR GRADUATION. I don’t see you possibly crossing that level of rudeness.
Post # 7
Um, no hard feelings on quitting? Don’t worry about being rude! This person cost you an extra semester!
I’d flat out tell her, ‘sorry, due to your actions, I am now not graduating until x. I have to do my own solo project and am no longer able to help with this project. As I am no longer a credited member of your project, my designs are not available for you to use.
No hard feelings,
Ok, so maybe slightly less bitchy – I would contact your advisor (does this girl have the same advisor as you?) and let her know you were contacted. This might be something that needs to go higher up (between advisors) to make sure they don’t use your designs/this girl should be told that her slacking negatively affected your graduating.
Post # 9
I still don’t understand why your advisor thought it was appropriate to pull you from the project and let her continue on to grauduate on time. If the project was so bad that it was going to negatively affect you, why wouldn’t it have the same negative effect on her?
In any case, I would simply say that I was not willing for her to use the designs and that I was unable to spare the time to be of any assistance and wish her well.
Post # 10
@PinkPinstripes: I agree. Go to the advisor and present them with what this student has requested of you!
Post # 11
@hisgoosiegirl: Actually I like hers better because its bitchy lol. IF you don’t get a godo enough answer from your advisor, don’t be afraid to go over her. Heck I’d probably go over her since she pulled you off the first project.
Post # 12
I don’t understand why she is still allowed to continue. Do you think she’ll bomb this prject and have to retake it?
I would e-mail her back
I did not quit. Do to your inability to turn in your part of the project in a timely manner, Advisor decided it would be in my best interest to work on my own and complete this project in the Fall. You did not help me in my quest to graduate this Spring, therefore I have no desire to help you.
Good luck in your future endeavors.
It probably seems passive agressive. But she doesn’t seem to know that it is her fault that you are no longer in the group. She needs to learn that you can’t screw people over in your group and expect them to still help you.
Post # 13
@SimplyChic11: If I were you i would bring this email to the dean and raise holy hell that YOU are going to graduate late because you were pulled out of a project against your will because of HER incompetence–and now it appears that SHE will graduate on time while you will not
If you make enough of a stink about it, they will either A pull some strings so you can graduate on time or B make sure that she does not get rewarded for her incompetence
You are only the victim in this situation if you allow it
Post # 14
If only I could be bitchy. 😛 I’m wayyy too nice and it annoys me. I think what happened was my adviser made the final decision to protect me from getting hurt by her work and then to save the other student’s reputation it was stated that ‘due to unforeseen circumstances’ I had to drop the project. But in confidentiality, my adviser told me it was due to her concern about me personally keeping up with the work that was unfair. I think the way it was handled was for the sake of the others invovled to make it seem like it was a better choice all around. And it is… the project would have not showcased me at all thanks to this girl.
I am a performance theatre major and our project was a final production. My partner wrote the script and i was lead actor and designer.
Post # 15
You really need to take this to your advisor or dean. Right here “that she wanted me to still design for her with no credit and also that she wanted to use my designs….” she’s basically saying she plans on plagiarizing you. Who’s to say she still won’t use your previous designs if you tell her not to? Most schools have a zero tolerance for this stuff.
Post # 16
I would definitely A) let her know that you did not “quit” the project and B) that you are too busy with your solo project to help her and that your designs are not available for her use.
I would also talk to your advisor about her request.