(Closed) Good Idea, or Bad Idea: FB message my coworkers to tell them about my Nose Job

posted 7 years ago in Career
  • poll: Should I send a FB message to my coworkers to give them a heads up about my Rhinoplasty?
    Yes - they'll probably notice anyway and addressing it right away will reduce any gossip : (7 votes)
    14 %
    No - it's not necessary and will only draw more attention to you : (42 votes)
    86 %
  • Post # 3
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    You don’t have to explain anything! You decided to get the procedure done so own up to it. You’re worrying over nothing. Just breathe, relax and go to work. If you do say something I would not explain that it was for breathing, sleep and a little aesthtic nudge. That will likely provoke more gossip. I immedietely think it’s a cop out when someone had told this to me in the past. I’m like “yeah, sleep issues, she wanted a nose job and that’s all she had to say!”



    Post # 4
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    don’t send an email but know that there will be gossip and talking behind your back regardless if you will email or not. I just think address it case by case, to those who ask and to those who look like they really, really want to ask.

    Post # 5
    6830 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am sorry why should care what your co workers think? Seriously all the email/note is going to do is draw attention to it.  Unless said co workers are good friends I wouldn’t explain a thing

    Post # 6
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think if it will make you feel better, and have less anxiety about it, you should send it.  Even if you dont really care what they think- it might just ease your mind so you aren’t worried that they are talking behind your back.

    ETA-  I DO think it may draw more attention to it, but if you already think they are going to notice, then what is the difference?

    Post # 7
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I wouldn’t say anything preemptively. If you hear of somebody saying “MissTaken looks like she got a nose job!” just jokingly say back “Well, duh. I thought it was obvious that I had reconstruction?”

    People expect you to hide the fact you had it done like it’s some shameful thing, so if you call them out on it if you hear gossip, then they will shut up.

    Post # 9
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I wouldn’t say anything.

    I had my nose done 6 months ago (it’s still a bit swollen- btw!) and I went back to work 2 days later with the cast on and bruises under my eyes.  Everyone knew I was having a procedure on my nose (I told them that).  My office is small though and no one cares.

    Message me if you want to talk about the healing process.  It is a LONG process.

    Post # 10
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I don’t think you need to e-mail them in advance–but do address it if it is very noticeable or if someone asks in person.

    We had a co-worker (small department of 6 women) come to work one day with really dark eyebrows–she used to have sparse eyebrows–and suddenly there she was looking like Groucho Marx and acting like nothing ever happened! It looked like she got them tattooed, but she once our boss finally asked, she said it was a special eyebrow pencil! (She actually did get them tattooed and lied about it). I think that if you make a change that is dramatically noticeable and you are around people 9-5 M-F, a person shouldn’t lie about something notiecable. But it sounds like you are not ashamed…and congrats ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    There will be gossip no matter what, but to be honest, if I got a message like this, I would feel like you did want to show it off and call attention to it.

    Just me.

    Congratulations on your surgery though, super exciting!

    Post # 12
    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @MissTaken:  I wouldn’t say anything… the “please be understanding” sounds a little condescending to me anyway. Just explain briefly if someone notices, that would make it less of a big deal and quell drama (not that there should be any).

    Post # 13
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @MissTaken:  good idea to blame it on hair! however you can make a joke about it… saying “what…? my hair is different? or is it my nose job?” and laugh. That shows you’re more than open to talking about it and are not ashamed.

    Post # 14
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yeah, I wouldn’t send an email. As a PP said, people will talk anyways. And I hope the healing process goes well for you ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 15
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Do you have a friend in the office, someone you trust? I would have them spread around the word that you had a procedure done to improve your breathing and that you may be sensitive to any comments you might get. This person could stop any gossiping or at least make sure everyone knew the truth.

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