(Closed) GOOD NEWS: Divorce rate is NOT 50%.

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
Member
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

That’s excited! Fiance and I will be 26 when we get married, we’re both college educated, will have been together just over 4 years, and we don’t have any kids! Good on us. πŸ™‚ His parents are divorced (mine aren’t), but both his mom and his dad have been in stable relationships for over 10 years so I think that lessens the whole divorce thing a little too. 

Post # 48
Member
1981 posts
Buzzing bee

Woo! We’re 4/5… we’re under 25. oh well.

Post # 49
Member
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I kind of don’t get why everyone is getting so excited and counting what they have on the list (not to be a negative nelly), but it seems like ANY statistic can be manipulated to show something different.

If you segregate it further, depending on, for example, ethnic background, or location, religion or whatever, I’m sure the figures could say something entirely different as well.

You also have to wonder about the number of people they used to get the lower that 50% statistic. I mean, when a person gets a divorce it’s not like the paperwork asks whether you have a college degree or your parents are still married. Tongue out

I think that everyone just has to take ALL of the statistics with a grain of salt and truly realize that the numbers mean nothing to individuals.

 

Post # 50
Member
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s great news! We have a lot of those qualities.. I’m over 25, Fiance is college educated and his parents were together until his mother passed away. So there our chances have gone way down, Thanks for this post!

Post # 51
Member
604 posts
Busy bee

Marriage is definitely doable no matter what the circumstances are, but still the divorce rate is a bit lower then 50% and now it’s much lower because of the economy, and if we recover hopefully that rate will shoot up again. So it is relative. In the end who cares, as long as you take care of your partner and have good communication then divorce shouldn’t factor in.

Post # 52
Member
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hallelujah!!  Amen to that sista!

Post # 53
Member
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Sweet!  4 for us!  I didn’t know these things, thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

Post # 54
Member
1479 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m kind of with curlydreamer in that I’m not quite sure why everyone is getting so jazzed about the statistics.  I mean, of course there are factors that contribute to successful marriages, but I actually know people who are 0/4 for that list and have an incredibley successful marriage, and people who are 4/4 who have gotten divorced after a year. 

I heard that the divorce rate is actually going down in the US because of the poor economy- ie, people aren’t getting divorced because it costs too much and they don’t have the money.  I’m not sure if that means people are working on their relationships now more but I think it’s encouraging πŸ™‚ 

Post # 55
Member
5150 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

πŸ™‚

Yay!

We have more than 3….

not that I needed that to tell me we’d be fine but I love that you proved that stupid stat was full of it!!! yay

Post # 56
Member
2194 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Thank you, that’s awesome to hear! Fiance and I will be 4/5 of those: college-educated (both will have our degrees by then and will be heading to grad school, god willing); both sets of parents still happily married; no children, will be marrying after having known each other for three years.  We’ll only be 23, but I think 4/5 is solid enough. πŸ™‚ That’s a relief to hear, and something to quiet the naysayers who say we’re too young!

Post # 57
Member
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

He’s 25, college educated, and his parents are together. I’ll be 24, college education, and my parents are still together. However, we’ll only have been together for… 21 months. Statistics are great for certain things, but I don’t think marriage statistics account for things like morals, commitment, and the fact that divorce will not be an option.

Post # 58
Member
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Statistically speaking, couples like my SO and I are unlikely to divorce because of our awesomeness factor. πŸ˜›

Post # 59
Member
1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree – i HATE statstics like that. not that if you don’t fall into any of those categories does that mean yoU WILL get divorced – but it’s like, “really? why do people have to constantly shove stats like that at anyone getting married?…

btw, though – of the ones you listed:

We are both over the age of 25.

I am college educated.

Both sets of parents are still married (however, his is a little more complicated as his real mom died when he was around 10 – but his dad and ‘step’mom have been married since then – over 20 years)

We will technically have been together over 3 years once we have our wedding (but were legal 2.5 years in…)

Neither of us have had children before the wedding. πŸ˜€

Post # 60
Member
5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well, I will be 24.5 when we get married, does that count? LOL We meet all of the other factors.

The topic ‘GOOD NEWS: Divorce rate is NOT 50%.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors