(Closed) Good news/Bad news

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Yes!  You do have to spell it out for them.  Most guys have NO idea what goes into wedding planning or how long things take.  Since you guys are already talking about the wedding so openly, I would recommend that you just straight up explain to him how far in advance you have to start booking things and maybe he’ll get the picture.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOl it could be worse… we’re planning either an August or October/ November 2010 wedding and he’s not planning to propose until February or March 2010! Not saying it can’t be done, but it doesn’t give me a whole lot to work with. Short engagement is fine by me, but that just means we’ll have SO much to do in such a little time frame and with him applying to graduate programs for either a second masters or a phd… we need to jump on it! Our whole relationship was kinda sped up by the school process and now we’re at warp speed full ahead!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

yeah, my boy once said that we’d just get married in like 2 weeks. just pick a date and then have everyone show up. it’s a good thing we were on the phone because i could not hide that look of utter horror. lol. thankfully he realized it would take more coordination than that and left me to handle the details for the “big wedding.”

i agree with hellohellohello, you let him know that you’d like x amount of time to plan for the wedding and he should plan the proposal accordingly. good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

yep, agree with pp and say oh cool, but since it’s over the holidays we’d def need to send out save the dates for our out of town guests as well as have about a year or so to plan to make sure we get everything we want.  and then kind of leave it at that?!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

actually, I’ve heard from a LOT of places that a shorter engagement can save you a LOT in the budget. Something about not deliberating over decisions forever and needing to cut corners for time saves money, I guess.

It’s definitely do-able in a short time frame, if you don’t want to edge him into an earlier proposal. I mean, it’s not like you’re the kind of girl who hasn’t got ideas floating around in your head yet — you’re on WB for goodness sakes!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@daydreamwanderer: i completely agree with the shorter engagement… i am hoping mine will be 6-9 months because i’d drive myself crazy if not… although if you want a grand extravaganza then a longer engagement is definitely for you!

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