(Closed) Good or bad idea?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Go on vacation with him or not?
    go : (84 votes)
    80 %
    don't go : (21 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I would suggest going, it would be a good chance to hash things out and be just you as a couple. The fact that he wants to go on vacation with you seems, to me at least, to be a good sign. It means he wants to be near you and with you, I would take advantage of this. Even if he is working, just enjoy each other and try to remember why you fell in love in the first place, she if those feelings are still there.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Go, save your marriage. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    As long as he isnt being abusive, perhaps a vacation will help you both figure out where you stand. Ask him what’s going on with work and if he wants to do it at another time to make it more convenient.

    I don’t think it can hurt, and it’s a positive step, it seems.

    Post # 7
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    6359 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Go, it’s a chance to really spend some time together and figure whether the spark can be rekindled or has gone out once and for all. It’s better than dragging it out and being unsure, whichever way it ends up going. Do your best to keep an open mind and heart and be at your best as a wife. That way you can know for sure if it craps out, it wasn’t because you didn’t try when it counted. And if it doesn’t crap out, hey hey awesome marriage future 🙂 What’s to lose?

    Post # 9
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    423 posts
    Helper bee

    I read your earlier posts and I think your partner has some real issues. In fact, it sounds as though he doesn’t give a rat’s ass about your pain and suffering. Sure, you can go on a vacation and if the two of you are ostensibly cordial and keep a lid on your major issues you can even have some superficially good times together. But once you are back and take the lid off your boiling pit, the problems will resurface and seem all the more suffocating after the breath of fresh air that was your vacation. Go ahead if you simply want to take time off from your problems and just enjoy yourselves. But if you view this as a channel to ease your problems, I don’t think it’ll be that easy. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Discuss your concerns, lay some ground rules regarding work, and go!  Being away on neural ground could really help you see your differences.

    Post # 11
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I haven’t read any of your other posts, but I would think that it couldn’t hurt to go.

    Post # 12
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    13013 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Go – with ground rules.  No work, time outs if it gets too tense or you’re fighting, etc.  Try to have a good time and work on your marriage!

    Post # 13
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    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly I wouldn’t go. Nobody really knows the ins and outs of your relationship other than you but to me it doesn’t really seem like the best idea…

    Post # 14
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    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Trust your gut.  If you don’t want to go, tell him.  Easy fixes don’t heal relationships.

    Post # 15
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    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would give it a shot, see if he is willing to work with you.

    Post # 16
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    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Go, for sure. I went on vacation with someone I barely knew once, on a total whim (it was a pretty cheap vacation, obviously) and it wove into a strange and intense relationship for a while. You learn a lot about people’s true colors on vacation. Just make sure you’re willing to work on your problems and don’t let your doubts show.

    Post # 17
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I wouldn’t go. I’ve been on a vacation when our relationship was in a bad spot and it was miserable. We paid lots of money to have an even worse time and more fighting than normal. Maybe a staycation (a few days at home together really spending time together or talking) or longer term marital counseling are a better alternative.

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