Post # 1
A little background first, just because I have seen you ladies call out other bees before lol. Fiance and I moved into our own place 2 weeks ago, we were staying with his mom to pay down some debt. And we decided to have a destination elopment in 2 months, a big wedding wasnt really something we wanted so I am super excited about having a private ceremony with just the two of us.
Okay, fast forward to now. These past few months my cycle has been going haywire, and I have a small cyst in my left ovary that is causing a lot of aching. I am normally a 30 day girl without fail, but recently I can go 35 days, 47 days or 50 days. The only consistent thing is that they are just getting longer and longer. The doc has tested for everything under the sun and they arent sure why its happening. They possibly think PCOS, but I dont not have any other symptoms other than the cyst and longer cycles. I think they are hesitant to diagnose because the cyst has been there for a while, before my cycles starting getting longer.
My main worry is that they will just stop all together, which is something that my OBGYN mentioned. If that happens that means no ovulating…which means no babies. We werent going to TTC until we were married for a year, but I just have a feeling that we need to start soon I miss my window. I know there is no guarantee to get pregnant, but I feel like it is important to start trying.
Am I freaking out too soon?
Post # 2
I would honestly focus on figuring out what is happening with your body and not add in the stress of TTC. I understand it is frustrating, but it could become very frustrating, very fast if you don’t take your time and first figure out what your body is going through.
Post # 3
I agree with the PP that you should probably hold off on TTC until you figure out why things are going haywire.
Post # 4
I agree… I mean, I would not prevent, but I wouldn’t go actively tracking and trying to plan a baby. If the doctors have told you they’ve already done every test and can’t do anything further until you TTC anyways, then sure. You just gotta do whatever feels right for the two of you
Post # 5
Is there a good reason NOT to start TTC now? If your OBGYN says it’s okay (that the cyst or other problems aren’t going to cause a problem for a pregnancy) and DH is okay with it, if it were me I’d at least stop preventing.
Post # 6
Well if you really did do all the tests and they don’t know what’s wrong, I’d go for it. (Assuming you are financially able to care for a baby, your husband is ready, etc).
I’d at least stop preventing, and maybe start charting. It may be helpful for the doctors too, if maybe they can see a pattern and figure out what’s going on.
The only reason I wouldn’t start trying is if your doctor says it could harm you. finding a diagnosis doesn’t change what your body is doing, you’d just know what’s wrong. If your doctor says pregnancy at this point is okay, id go for it
Post # 7
What is the difference between staring to try now or in a year? That’s what I would ask myself. If it’s finances or just that you wanted to spend a year enjoying each other, setting up your new home…etc. I’d weigh what that year meant to me. In the long run a year isn’t that long and if you are having problems it could take more than that to conceive.
Btw…I want to destination elope too. I love the intimate ides of it just bring us.
Post # 8
What does your fiance think? Are you guys ready to have a baby (financially, emotionally, work wise, etc)? If you’re ready, then there’s no reason to wait. But I wouldn’t jump into something that you aren’t ready for just because you’re scared about what problems there might be in the future.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
You’re getting married soon and you have your own place. Life throws curveballs and if your Fiance and you would be happy if you potentially had a baby 9 months from now, then I’d go for it! Sounds like you won’t be able to chart, so I’d suggest stop trying to actively prevent and just have some fun together and enjoy each other, and if a baby is made, even better!! 😀
Post # 10
It’s normal for a bad cyst to mess up your cycles. So unless your doc is telling you you could have longer term issues, don’t drasucally change your plans based on that hypothetical. It’s best to take folic acid for at least three months before starting to TTC, so I would start taking that and spend the time thinking anout making the leap and pushing hard for answers on the cyst. If they suspect PCOS they can do endocrinologic tests and ultrasound your ovaries to see if you have an abnormal number of cysts or just a normal number including the bad one.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
What does your OBGYN propose to do about the cyst? Perhaps you could start there while you begin thinking things through.
Post # 12
we just wanted to wait to have time to relax and enjoy each other. But if the journey ahead of us could be long, the year not trying wouldnt be worth it to me. Kids are very important to us.
Fiance has always wanted kids right away, so issues or not he is on board for trying as soon as we elope. Everything else as far as finances and such are finally stable. Work wise we would be okay as well.
see, my OB told me that the cyst shouldnt cause irregular or missed periods unless it is accompanied by PCOS. I think she is saying that because I have has a cyst before and nothing became irregular. I had an ultrasound this morning and nothing came up besides the cyst that we already knew about. More blood was taken for a few more tests as well.
OB wants to just let the cyst go away on its own. It isnt very big (size of a grape) and this is my 2nd one in the same ovary. My issue is that the irregular cycles just came on all of a sudden, they arent sure why.
Post # 13
Have you been stressed out at all the last few months? I find my cycles definitely respond to my stress levels. TTC in itself is very stressful if it doesn’t happen right away. Have you gained or lost any weight recently? Are you coming off of the pill?
If your OB gives you the green light, I think you’re fine as they will only do that if they feel comfortable with it. Personally I would want to wait and see what’s going on with my body, as there’s usually a reason even if you haven’t found it yet. The problem is that once you’re pregnant, there’s limited options in testing and treatment, so if it’s something serious, you might not be able to do anything about it until the baby is born.
Post # 14
I hope you don’t mind, but I read your other thread from last year, and it seems like the last few months have been really stressful for you. You moved in with your FI’s mom, and you’re working 3 jobs now to pay off the surprise debt that is looming over your head? It sounds like you and your Fiance have been working your butts off and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if the stress of paying the loans down as aggressively as you have been is affecting your health. Do you have much time to just relax?
Stress is very sneaky sometimes and often you don’t realize you’re stressed until your body starts reacting. And usually by then, it’s a long-standing cumulative effect. Stress can absolutely cause late ovulation and irregular cycles. The good news is that it’s generally reversable.
Post # 15
I was going to suggest charting too. Are you under any stress lately? That can cause periods to delay.