Post # 1
I lost my mother when I was eight. She was such an important person in my life and I still miss her everyday.. expecially since I am planning my wedding and I wish she was here to help me. I am going to wear her wedding dress with a few tweeks (probably so most of the guests may not even notice that I am wearing her dress but the important people will).
The woman who became like my second mother just died in Febuary. She died suddenly of liver cancer. She knew my fiance and use to joke about how we were going to get married. I always figured that since I lost my mom so young in life she would be my mother during my wedding. She was the woman that took my mother in when she got kicked out of her house when she was a teen. That woman that I called grandma, even though she was young enough to be my mom. I am thinking I am going to wear a piece of her jewelry.
Walking down as three generations. Those two women that I wish so much that could be there.
Do you think it would be too much if I had small flower bouquets made in my flowers for their graves ( they were buried right next to eachother. They were best friends.) I know I want to visit their graves after we get married so I can tell my mom and grandma that I got married to my best friend and tell them how much i love them. I went to visit them the day after I got engaged.
If i were to have small bouquets made would i place them on a table? or should I leave two seats for them?
I want to make sure they are known but I don’t want it to be too much and make everyone sad.
We are already getting married in the church my parents got married at, but i don’t want to forget them either.
any ideas to show the two women who helped raised me who have passed too soon that i love them?
How do I show the grandma that is still living and has done a lot for me as well that she is still important?
Post # 3
i think your bouquet idea is lovely. yes, it’s going to cause some guests to well up with tears a bit, but i think as long as you don’t dwell on it or constantly mention it all night, it won’t overshadow the joy with sadness.
here is a recent post of mine about a way i’m honoring our deceased relatives. I’m having these small charms attached to my bouquet and my groom is having them tucked inside his jacket pocket.
Bouquet Charms to Honor Relatives Who’ve Passed On
And this is how we’re wording it in our program, so people can take a closer look if they like:
The small photographs attached to the bride’s bouquet and the groom’s jacket pocket are in memory of loved ones who are no longer with us. We wish you could be standing here with us today, but we know you are here in spirit. You are in our hearts always; we love and miss you.
FirstName LastName, Grandfather of the Bride
FirstName LastName, Grandfather of the Bride
FirstName LastName, Grandmother of the Groom
FirstName LastName, Grandfather of the Groom
FirstName, Beloved Childhood Dog of the Groom
Post # 4
OK, this post is making me cry! My father and grandparents have passed and I want to honor them. I was going to do mini-bouquets for the cemetery, but my florist was charging a lot. I will probably buy the flowers at Costco, make up my own and take them either the day before or the morning of. I think I am going to do the bouquet charm thing and put something in my program.
@xo triciazach xo: instead of 2 empty chairs (that seems a little sad for a celebration), why don’t you have the bouquets at your guest book table or something similar, with a nicely printed verse in a frame? For your grandmother, I have seen several posts on WB, where the bride gave her bouquet to her grandmother instead of tossing it.
@MissPumpkinPenguin: your ideas and wording are really beautiful. Thanks for the charm post–I only saw kind of ugly ones at Michaels, so this really helped me.
Post # 5
I carried (and then released) a balloon for each of the 6 people we were missing on our wedding day. There was a halmark commercial about 5 years ago where a little girl sent a balloon (with a card tied to the bottom) to heaven for her daddy. It was a really touching commercial and it just seemed right for us when it came to the wedding. I was missing my grandpa and my best friend, and hubs is missing 4 grandparents (3 to death and 1 wasn’t present due to bad health). We got some great pictures and it was a nice and quiet way to remember and incorporate those that weren’t there.
Post # 6
@Georgia Bee, the charms I found at AC Moore for about 3 dollars for 3 charms. Let me know if you want a link to them. They’re very easy to put together. You just may have to play a little with resizing your pictures to get the person’s face to fit in the tiny frame.
Post # 7
I like the idea of placing them on the guest table. My future mother in law also had an idea by placing the small bouquets in vases up by where we are getting married and then taking them with us when we tell them about our wedding inbetween the wedding and the ceremony (then a quick touch up of makeup because i am sure i am going to bawl). I also love the idea of placing a charm on my bouquet.
Has anyone ever heard of presenting the mothers a single flower from your bouquet? because i was thinking of giving both my grandma that is still living and has also helped raised me one and also his mom who is such a great woman in my life.
I like the balloon idea as well but I am not sure if it would work.
is anyone else planning without their mom? His mom has been super helpful so far.. and I love that. It just… doesn’t always feel right. It makes me sad knowing she isn’t here for it and it makes me sad that my grandma who was only in her 40s couldn’t see it either. :/
*sorry if it sounds like a pity party.. That is not my intention at all. Its just sad… and I miss them both so much.
Post # 8
How about having them named during your ceremony and ring a bell for each of them.
I don’t think I would have seats for them at the reception or the ceremony. You could include pictures of them and you at the reception.