(Closed) Good way to show love to those you’ve lost….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i think your bouquet idea is lovely.  yes, it’s going to cause some guests to well up with tears a bit, but i think as long as you don’t dwell on it or constantly mention it all night, it won’t overshadow the joy with sadness.

here is a recent post of mine about a way i’m honoring our deceased relatives.  I’m having these small charms attached to my bouquet and my groom is having them tucked inside his jacket pocket.

Bouquet Charms to Honor Relatives Who’ve Passed On

And this is how we’re wording it in our program, so people can take a closer look if they like:


The small photographs attached to the bride’s bouquet and the groom’s jacket pocket are in memory of loved ones who are no longer with us.  We wish you could be standing here with us today, but we know you are here in spirit.  You are in our hearts always; we love and miss you.


FirstName LastName, Grandfather of the Bride

FirstName LastName, Grandfather of the Bride

FirstName LastName, Grandmother of the Groom

FirstName LastName, Grandfather of the Groom

FirstName, Beloved Childhood Dog of the Groom

Good luck!

Post # 4
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OK, this post is making me cry!  My father and grandparents have passed and I want to honor them.  I was going to do mini-bouquets for the cemetery, but my florist was charging a lot.  I will probably buy the flowers at Costco, make up my own and take them either the day before or the morning of. I think I am going to do the bouquet charm thing and put something in my program.

@xo triciazach xo: instead of 2 empty chairs (that seems a little sad for a celebration), why don’t you have the bouquets at your guest book table or something similar, with a nicely printed verse in a frame?  For your grandmother, I have seen several posts on WB, where the bride gave her bouquet to her grandmother instead of tossing it.

@MissPumpkinPenguin: your ideas and wording are really beautiful.  Thanks for the charm post–I only saw kind of ugly ones at Michaels, so this really helped me.

Post # 5
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I carried (and then released) a balloon for each of the 6 people we were missing on our wedding day. There was a halmark commercial about 5 years ago where a little girl sent a balloon (with a card tied to the bottom) to heaven for her daddy. It was a really touching commercial and it just seemed right for us when it came to the wedding. I was missing my grandpa and my best friend, and hubs is missing 4 grandparents (3 to death and 1 wasn’t present due to bad health). We got some great pictures and it was a nice and quiet way to remember and incorporate those that weren’t there.


Post # 6
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Georgia Bee, the charms I found at AC Moore for about 3 dollars for 3 charms.  Let me know if you want a link to them.  They’re very easy to put together.  You just may have to play a little with resizing your pictures to get the person’s face to fit in the tiny frame.

Post # 8
14 posts
  • Wedding: December 1990

How about having them named during your ceremony and ring a bell for each of them. 

I don’t think I would have seats for them at the reception or the ceremony.  You could include pictures of them and you at the reception.

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