(Closed) Goodbye 1-year timeline :/ Change in plans

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

first off CONGRATS! once in a liftetime ..that is amazing and I hope you are still jumping up and down lol 

 

Maybe talk to him about this all.  Guys tend to see the picture when it’s all spelled out for them.  He may think you don’t havea problem waiting 3 more years.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

As someone who is in a PhD program right now I say congrats on the grad school! It’s a wonderful (and challenging) experience. 

I caution you about putting specific numbers of ages on things, though. Fiance and I started dating at 22/21, moved in together at 25, got engaged at 27–all while being graduate students–and will be married at 29. Those last two were based on our academic progress. 

Do what feels right, but don’t stress over dating for 6 or 7 or 9 years before marrying. Especially in academia, you’ll fit right in. You should definitely talk to him about all this, though. I’m a little confused by him not wanting to be engaged unless y’all are in the same area/living together. Does that change the level of commitment somehow?

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