Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hi. One year ago I moved into my own place and have continued seeing HIM since then. Part is because I was trying to see if we could be a married couple, part because we share a car, part because he is my friend.
I am ready to admit it’s over. He recently bought himself a twin bed (!) and an expensive electric back massager. He’s settling in for a life of celibacy. I am eagerly looking forward to a new relationship that will result in a happy marriage for me. I had a hysterectomy over the summer and have been forced to switch jobs.
It’s now been a year since we had sex and a few months since we stopped kissing. I will always love him but I need someone who has many qualities he just doesn’t possess and has no interest in cultivating.
I’m excited because I’ve spent so much time learning what I need in a relationship and what’s important to me in a wedding. I’ve decided the time and energy I spent researching “our” wedding will be helpful to me when I find my husband.
I just recently started reading helpful breakup books, like “It’s called a breakup because its broken.” We met 4 years ago and, at age 51, I think this will be the first big relationship that was healthy enough to turn into a supportive friendship once the “coupledom” was gone in my ENTIRE LIFE!
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
I am sorry, but it sounds like you are making the best decision for yourself. I hope that you are back soon.
Post # 4
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868 posts
Busy bee
in the immortal words of the ’90’s: You Go Girl! and you are so right about the research paying off in the future 🙂
Post # 5
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1404 posts
Bumble bee
@mermaideve: Good on you for realising the relationship isn’t working and moving on. I’m sure you have a lot to look forward to.
Post # 6
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11265 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
good luck with everything. don’t settle for anything less than you deserve, want and need.
Post # 7
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6255 posts
Bee Keeper
You are very brave. Someday you will look back at this decision and see that it was the catalyst for the life, and the love, you really deserve.
Post # 9
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3245 posts
Sugar bee
It sounds like you have made the right decision. I’m sure it was hard, but good for you! There’s someone out there who you are more compatible with than your soon-to-be/recent ex!
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
Sounds like you’re one smart woman – refusing to just settle when you know you deserve better. Breaking up a relationship is never easy, but it’s easier when you know it is for the best. Positive thoughts sent your way!
Post # 12
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699 posts
Busy bee
@mermaideve: KUDOS!!!! good for you, yes thats an amazing book, it got me over my first guy of 9 years, and so many others. another one is
I used to miss him but my aim is improving,
it’s hilarious and will get your self seteem back big time ^-^
