Post # 1
Hi. One year ago I moved into my own place and have continued seeing HIM since then. Part is because I was trying to see if we could be a married couple, part because we share a car, part because he is my friend.
I am ready to admit it’s over. He recently bought himself a twin bed (!) and an expensive electric back massager. He’s settling in for a life of celibacy. I am eagerly looking forward to a new relationship that will result in a happy marriage for me. I had a hysterectomy over the summer and have been forced to switch jobs.
It’s now been a year since we had sex and a few months since we stopped kissing. I will always love him but I need someone who has many qualities he just doesn’t possess and has no interest in cultivating.
I’m excited because I’ve spent so much time learning what I need in a relationship and what’s important to me in a wedding. I’ve decided the time and energy I spent researching “our” wedding will be helpful to me when I find my husband.
I just recently started reading helpful breakup books, like “It’s called a breakup because its broken.” We met 4 years ago and, at age 51, I think this will be the first big relationship that was healthy enough to turn into a supportive friendship once the “coupledom” was gone in my ENTIRE LIFE!
Post # 3
I am sorry, but it sounds like you are making the best decision for yourself. I hope that you are back soon.
Post # 4
in the immortal words of the ’90’s: You Go Girl! and you are so right about the research paying off in the future 🙂
Post # 5
@mermaideve: Good on you for realising the relationship isn’t working and moving on. I’m sure you have a lot to look forward to.
Post # 6
good luck with everything. don’t settle for anything less than you deserve, want and need.
Post # 7
You are very brave. Someday you will look back at this decision and see that it was the catalyst for the life, and the love, you really deserve.
Post # 9
It sounds like you have made the right decision. I’m sure it was hard, but good for you! There’s someone out there who you are more compatible with than your soon-to-be/recent ex!
Post # 10
Sounds like you’re one smart woman – refusing to just settle when you know you deserve better. Breaking up a relationship is never easy, but it’s easier when you know it is for the best. Positive thoughts sent your way!
Post # 12
@mermaideve: KUDOS!!!! good for you, yes thats an amazing book, it got me over my first guy of 9 years, and so many others. another one is
I used to miss him but my aim is improving,
it’s hilarious and will get your self seteem back big time ^-^