(Closed) Goodbye October wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
598 posts
Busy bee

I know how you feel. I have been with my SO for 6 years and still not even engaged yet. I am still in college and he is done with college working with a great salary but wants to buy a house and THEN get married, so I know that I won’t even be getting a ring until he gets the house which could be god knows when.

Just look at it this way, at least you have something to look forward to! It will come when the time is right, and right now the time is not right for him. Let him get his stuff together, finish classes and school, and then you can both enjoy your wedding together.

Post # 5
598 posts
Busy bee

True, I can see what you mean. For example I told my SO that we could always get engaged now and wait until I was done with school (2.5-3 years from now.) He said he doesn’t want a long engagement. Everyone is different though.

I can totally see how it is almost like torture to drag out your engagement for 3 years. Would you have prefered to get engaged almost two years ago and wait almost 3 years to get married OR would you have prefered to not even get engaged until lets say….. sometime early next year (2013) and get engaged a year or so later? Either way you would have had to wait- see what I’m trying to say?

I would have loved the ring 2 years ago but hey, my finger is still naked!

People will take your engagement seriously once the invitations are out! Don’t worry so much, life is too short and you WILL get married! Time goes by so fast you wont even realize it. I know I wanna stomp my foot on the ground like a baby at times too but everything happens in time/for a reason. At least your living together already! I wish I was living together with my SO even in an apartment but he thinks its ridiculous to pay $1,500 in rent when you could pay that for a mortgage (which I actually agree on)

It’ll all work out for you no worries! You’ve waited this long whats another year or so? You can always sit and talk to him and see if you will be able to make the October wedding work somehow especially since you put the money down for the venue. Sit down and discuss it.

Either way it’ll all work out for you!

Post # 6
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Have you asked him if he still wants to be done with school and in his job for three months before marrying? He may have changed his mind, so maybe you two can get married when you intended after all.

If not though, that is reasonable of him. I can see why he wants to wait. I can also see why it can be frustrating sometimes! Just know it will happen in the near future, even if it doesn’t feel near enough right now. You have the rest of your life to be married to him, after all.

Post # 7
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Maybe you can have a December winter wedding instead. So romantic 🙂

Post # 8
3296 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I know you’re frustrated and disappointed, and I get that. I really do.


I always wanted a fall wedding, but fiance dislikes fall with a passion– “season of death” he says (weirdo :P) So I accepted that I’d never have a fall wedding. Instead, we’d have a winter wedding– our compromise. Well, that didn’t pan out either, and we’ve ended up with an August wedding. Thing is, everything for this wedding is just falling into place. It’s like it is exactly the right time for us. When it is exactly the right time for you two, you’ll feel it.

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