- 5 years ago
Today I was at the mall with a friend, and we were trying to find our way back to a particular store, since we parked by its enterance. During this time, we were in a serious discussion about some personal things. It was more me venting some of the things that have been frustrating me/upsetting me in my life, and they are fairly serious and I was feeling a bit down about it. Basically I was trying to catch my friend up on some things.
During our conversation and attempt to find our way back to the store (took us a while) two guys approached us, they seemed a bit younger, but I could see no reason why they needed to approach us with something along the lines of “Hey ladies, can we ask you something serious” or “Excuse me ladies, can we ask you something”. I am not too sure of the exact words, since we initially ignored them since we were deep in conversation. We don’t know them, and it seemed slightly inappropriate the way they were addressing us. There was a bench of people infront of them, and another couple of guys by them. If they wanted to ask the location of a store or what not, it would have been easier to ask the people standing beside them, not my friend and I, who we were not too close yet but close enough to call out to. The best way to describe this interaction was akward.
We avoided eyecontact with them because it was more that their faces didn’t really show concern, like to tell us if we had dropped something or that something was about to fall on us. They were approaching us with these smirks. Just their body language just made us feel awkward and I did not want to even acknowledge them.
Anyways, they literally walked up in to our direct path, to ask again “Ladies can we ask you something serious”. I am a bit frustrated at this point, because I am talking about something very important to my good friend, are being interupted by two young guys who don’t get the hint that we don’t really want to talk.
Well they really don’t have anything important to say, or maybe they are upset at our reaction, because they go. “You look like you assume I am going to attack you.”
Me: “No, just frustrated.”
One of the guys: “Can we ask you something?”
To which I answer. “Since you stopped us, go ahead.” I am visibly annoyed. My friend is standing there a bit confused as to what’s going on because she herself is unsure of why these guys were hounding us down so strangely.
Then they go. “Why do you two look so angry walking?”
My immediate response was something along the lines of “this is f***ing ridiculous” and walked off.
Okay, we are in a deep and serious conversation when we were nearing those guys, but it is none of their business if we outwardly look upset/angry.
Looking back on it, I realize I should have made myself more approchable. I shouldn’t have had such a defensive demeanor. Maybe they really did have something important to say, but I was too busy being in my own world to give a thought to them.
I know in my mind I would never have reacted this way if I wasn’t in such a serious discussion, but I also know if the two men approached us with a more appropraite manner, not with these little smirks on their faces, (maybe they were just smiling and they have bitchy rest face syndrome like apparently my friend and I do) that things would have went differently, and I would have been more pleasant.
All I know is, I feel like a big jerk because I judged them before knowing them, and I could have been much nicer, even if those two guys really only wanted to say something mean in the end. I should have been the bigger person here, and I just feel really bad about it now. I could have absolutely misread their expressions.