(Closed) Gosh I feel like a jerk to these guys

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

Nope. Don’t feel like a jerk at all.

They were clearly aggressively getting up in your business and getting in your way from what it sounds like and if someone did that to me I would have told them off too.

Post # 4
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@xoxocheri:  oh lord please don’t feel bad about this. You don’t owe it to anyone to be approachable. I would never have stopped at all. I live in Philly (and also prev Boston & NYC) and learned a long time ago you can’t talk to every fool who wants your time. You don’t owe anyone any niceties. He interrupted you for no reason. You were much nicer than I would ever be. 

Im curious- where are you from?

Post # 5
2444 posts
Buzzing bee

@xoxocheri:  Welllll… yes, you could have handled the situation a little better, but you were caught off guard and already in a frustrated mood. I probably would have just said “no sorry” and kept walking.

From working in a mall, it sounds to me like they were not regular shoppers they were probably employees at a kiosk. You know the annoying ones you say “can i ask you a question” when you walk past and then try to sell you skin products or hair straighteners. So if that was them, I wouldnt feel so bad. They are really annoying and aggressive. Always rub people the wrong way asking inappropriate questions etc etc.

Anyways, if someone should approach you again just say no so they dont keep asking.

Post # 8
1473 posts
Bumble bee

@xoxocheri:  don’t feel like a jerk at all, why the f would two strangers care if you two ladies looked angry, none of thier business. That would make me mad as well. You don’t owe them any explanation. If it helps I felt the same way today. I was at work early this morning and my coworker was talking to the customer service agent ( I’m a flight attendant) and the Csa said ” I’m just the main bitch around here” loud enough that I and passengers could hear. I asked him to step off the airplane so that I could tell him ” how inappropriate that was and I don’t appreciate it as we can all hear you, not cool” but then I felt like a b for saying something? Maybe I should let it go? I think society tells us to be ladies and not cause or stir up to much trouble and be nice to everyone we meet so we feel bad when we are not sweet as sugar.

Post # 12
8435 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@xoxocheri:  maybe they were genuinely concerned about you and your friend? maybe they thought something had happened to you at the mall and that you might need assistance.

I think it is good to remember that what one person interprets as a smirk could actually be someone elses smile. Isn’t there a recent thread on here about resting bitch face.

Hoenstly I think you were unbelievably rude to those guys and could definately have handled the situation much better. Would you have been this annoyed if it was an elderly lady that approached you? or a child? or a woman?


Post # 13
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mamadingdong:  Seriously! I live in Boston, and I definitely wouldn’t have stopped!

Post # 14
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@xoxocheri:  they were being immature aholes amusing themselves at your expense. Plain and simple. You’re overthinking it.

Post # 15
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You don’t owe it to ANY strange guy to be “approachable.” You were a human being living your own life, doing something that mattered to you, and they decided to get on your case because they didn’t like /the expression on your face/ which is absolutely none of their business. And then when you clearly did not want to be bothered they kept aggressively forcing you to talk to them. They were really rude!

And, frankly, the way they behaved was also sexist. Can you imagine someone going up to two men having a serious conversation and ask them “why they look angry walking” or criticise the expression on their face!

Don’t feel bad AT ALL. 

Post # 16
2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BrandNewBride: & @mamadingdong:  – Born and raised NYCer here, it would never have even crossed my mind to stop, let alone engage in conversation with them!

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