- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
This may be more of a vent than anything, but here goes…
FI and I have been together for 7 years. We’ve always talked marriage and trying to have two kids etc.
Last year, when we talked about a timeline for our future, it was get married, buy our first home, then have a child. I will be 30 in January and expressed to him the risks of waiting a while and also since we want to try for two we didn’t want to wait too long to start.
So, we’re getting married in two weeks, yay! And we are set to close on our first home the day before the wedding! (We’re crazy, I know!)
Well, ever since we signed the papers for the house to go under contract, FI has been mentally making plans for everything he’s ever wanted, EVER in his dream house. This ranges from a Tiki hut bar outside by the pool to a man cave garage in the backyard. This also includes moving and adding on to the existing fence, and redoing the entire deck, a pool table, another huge flat screen tv, a boat, etc. Everything which will cost money and take loads of time. Did he hit the lottery and I’m unaware? LOL
We’ve both designated the extra rooms in the house as an office, a guest bedroom and a nursery that will be used for random storage until we have a baby, but he says he wants to finish all these other things first before we TTC.
Honestly, I was thinking we’d enjoy being married and our new house for a while and maybe start NTNP around Christmas-January. Maybe it’s the newness and excitement of buying our first home, but it seems like he’s interested in making it the ultimate party pad for our friends vs. making it a family home. Men and their toys are so frustrating.
What were/are your stories of trying to establish a TTC timeline with your SO?