- 3 weeks ago
Hi Bees! Happy New Year.
So, some of you may remember the man I left back in June/July of this past year. To summarize, he was a selfish controlling DB who was financially using me and after 3 years I finally walked out.
Fast forward to this past week. My son had been dogsitting for our old next door neighbor’s, the house right next to my old Boyfriend or Best Friend. Ex Boyfriend or Best Friend saw my son’s car there on Christmas Day and texted me asking me if my son needed anything and that if he wanted food, he was welcome to stop by his house, etc. I thanked him for the gesture and then asked that he give my son the Xmas cards I know he received which were mine, since some of my family didnt’ get the memo that I moved. He responsed with, “Of course. Yes, ma’am. Will do.”
My son then tells me that my ex bf came by the next day with my Xmas cards and with food for him. Then the next day one of my ex bf’s girls came over with food for him. At some point during this past week, it was revealed by the girls to my son that the ex bf’s new girlfriend would be moving in soon. He’s been dating this wman since the beginning of September!!!! And, her 2 youngest children will be moving in with her along with her dog. Apparently, she has a 13 year old boy and a 15 year old girl. WOW! Just wow.
2 days ago I got a text from my ex bf’s ex-wife. She then confirmed to me what was going on and asked me if I had heard. I told her my son filled me in and she said she’s concerned for her children. I agreed. But, I pretty much told her that he needs someone to help pay his living expenses and for that mortgage he has. I cracked a joke and said, “I wonder how much he’s going to charge her to live under his roof?” I feel sorry for this woman. My ex bf is quite the charmer in the beginning but, upon looking back, I can see how he plans things. I became a participant in his ‘plan’ without even realizing it as I had no idea. It was subtle.
Anyway, I’m happy today! Glad I’m out of there. I do feel badly for his kids. My son was grateful for the food but befuddled by the gesture. I told him to just accept it. The ex bf could never handle being seen as the bad guy in his past relationships, I’m sure it’s his way of just making himself feel better. Take the food, say thank you, and move on.