- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
New username for this vent…
Ok, I just want to say straight off, this is a VEEENT! So, I know that maybe I’m not being 100% reasonable here, and perhaps a bit sensitive / childish / churlish. Just need to get this out though.
Had a lovely bridal shower brunch this morning. It was fantastic, and I loved it! My friends did a crepe bar that was to die for – heart them so much! Now before I go on, let me say that my three best friends of many years organized this, and my mom was in no way involved and did not put any work into it. Otherwise I might not be as upset about what happened.
So the day started with me getting ready at my mom’s house, and already I’m getting ‘comments’. My skin is broken out, shouldn’t I use a bit more concealer? Am I sure that I want to wear that dress? Maybe I’d like to wear a more padded bra to look a bit shapelier…
Then we get to the shower, and I have a great time. But, when it’s time to open presents, my mom starts ‘hissing’ these comments to me (you know, in a fakey stage whisper,) that everyone can hear!
Bee – make sure you remember to say thank you for this gift!
Bee (before I’ve even had a chance to pick the gift up,) why aren’t you holding it up so everyone can see it? People can’t see the gift Bee!
Bee, why don’t you talk louder? People didn’t hear whose gift this was. Bee, did you hear me? Say it again and say it louder so people will know.
She must have done this literally 10 times or so. Argh, I was embarrassed! Everyone could clearly hear what she was saying even though in her mind only I could hear it. I mean really – if you genuinely think people didn’t hear me, then simply say cheerfully to the room “Oh, did you hear that? This is from X and Y, how very thoughtful!” Hold the gift up yourself if you’re that terrified I’ll forget!
I tried shooting her ‘looks’ to quiet her, but it didn’t help and that was worse – now I am getting into a pseudo-fight with my mom in front of everyone! I am really shy and hate being the center of attention anyways, so I was mortified.
Now, my mom is not the most social person in the world. So I do understand that she gets uptight and stressed in social settings, especially more formal ones, and worries about doing the ‘wrong’ thing. She wants our family to be perceived well and worries about making a blunder. I get this. And because of this, I will get over it and not bring it up to her. But I needed to vent. My face is still red!!