(Closed) Got a bit embarrassed at my shower…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010


My mother yelled out “stand up straight, you don’t want to look fat in your pictures!” as I recessed down the aisle at our ceremony. 

Some moms just can’t zip it.

Post # 4
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It sounds like your mom is just as uncomfortable with the spotlight as you are!  You don’t have to talk to her about it, but you could drop a quiet comment like “Hey mom, I bet you didn’t realize this, but the way you critiqued me at the shower embarrassed me a little.  You know it’s hard for me to be the center of attention, and your comments made me feel self-conscious.” That might be mild enough for her to get the message and not repeat the behavior at future events.

Regardless, I think you are handling it very well, since you realize where your mom’s attitude is coming from. 

Post # 5
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Moms!  I mean this in the best way possible- I am SO glad I’m not the only bee out there with a mother with no tact.  This past weekend my mom looked at me and my one pimple with her mom doesn’t approve look, and said, ” Do you plan on doing something about your face before your wedding.”  Yes she said your face, not acne.  Geesh, thanks mom.  Anyway, I understand where you’re coming from.  And I know theres probably not much you can do about it.  Your mom is just doing what she does.  If it was me tho, I would get sarcastic with her.  Like the next time she says something, say, “I’m sorry Mom can you say that again, I’m not sure eveyrbody heard you.”  But Maybe that would be bad…I just know thats what I’d do with my mom.  BTW, other than the mom thing, your bridal shower sounded awesome!

Post # 6
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Aw I’m so sorry 🙁 That must have been really frustrating!! I would have been really irritated as well if I were you!!! Has she always been like this? Have you ever told her how it makes you feel!? I definitely would try to talk to her to tell her that those comments either hurt your feelings or make you feel embarrassed in public. Maybe she just doesnt realize she is being that way. I hope things go better with her in the future 🙂

Post # 8
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I understand how you feel. In my proposal video you can hear my mama yelling “pull your shirt down” when I stood up.

Post # 9
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should remind her that you are a grown woman therefore she should speak to you like one. 🙂

Post # 10
7524 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow.  Lets all hope we don’t inherit that trait from our moms and do that to our own children!

Post # 11
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I get this! My mom didn’t do this, but my mother in law did this. She also has that issue of wanting to be perceived well by everyone. However, it was my Darling Husband that was getting those “critiques” throughout the night and I just have to show you this because the photographer CAUGHT her in the act at the reception. I about died laughing when I saw this pic, she was in the process of “reminding” him to go around to every single table and say thank you:

Post # 13
2318 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@bloodgo1: LOL that photo is classic.

But yeah everyone moms can be overbearing sometimes, try not to study it too much.

Post # 14
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Love the photo.  I feel your pain with your Mom.  My Mom acts like no one else is around, too, when she pulls that crap.  Thank God she is overseas while I’m planning the wedding!!!

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