(Closed) Got a cheque as a gift…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d cash it now and send the Thank You note right away too.  I think most ppl are bothered when they write checks that arent cashed right away.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrsbruff2b:   ASAP! I hate not having a check cleared in my account.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

if the date on the cheque is for right now, then you should do it right away. They would be expecting an immediate withdrawl. If you wait they may forget about it and then you could run into it bouncing if they are not execting a withdrawl at that time. If it is post-dated then wait until the date on the cheque to deposit.

Just make sure you write your thank you note right away…

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Now assuming it’s not post dated. 

(Also, don’t cheques expire? 6 months from the date or something? or is that something made up?)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrsbruff2b:  You can use any note cards you want.  Papyrus was doing a buy one get one half off sale last week, I scored 2 cute packets, 20 each.

Any wedding gift you get prior to the wedding you should acknowledge with a thank you right away.  Cash any checks, but don’t use the gifts until the deed is done 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

@mrsbruff2b:  You can send a quick one now, and send the more formal one again after the wedding thanking them. You don’t want to cash the check and wait months to send send something. They will appreciate the little note.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I would cash it asap.  They’ve probably already planned for it to come out of the account, and cashing it later might overdraw them.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Cash it now unless it’s post-dated.

If you want to cash it later, give them a call and ask/let them know. 

Checks do expire… you’ll have to check with the bank policies since they’re different. My half-brother found a check several months old from his dad and called his dad to see if it was okay to cash. His dad said it was fine but my brother’s bank wouldn’t accept it so he had to get a new one written from his dad.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’d definitely cash it now. I’m sure that’s what the sender expects and would prefer.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you don’t cash it now, she might wonder if you even got it :/ I might sound a little weird but I think it’s really cute when people send cheques this early….I guess it means they possible can’t come but are trying to say congratulations anyway…??

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Cheques expire so do it right away (don’t know how long though 6 months as PPs said sounds about right, might be 3).  Post dated cheques are illegal (at least in the UK) so it may well expire before your wedding.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Cash it now and send a thank you with your current monogram rather than a married joint monogram if you are using monogrammed stationary.  

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Cash it and send the thank you note the same day. 

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