(Closed) Got a fb save the date from a girl I don’t know very well,

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you truly feel uncomfortable responding, then I wouldn’t. However if you are unsure or inclined to say yes, respond with an address and take the time to decide if you want to go to the wedding later after you receive the invitation. If you don’t want to, you can always RSVP no.

EDIT: didn’t see the hen’s post. Hmmm, maybe she doesn’t have a lot of friends?

Post # 5
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@simpleandchic: It sounds like maybe she doesn’t have a lot of friends she’s close to anymore and my try to be re-connecting with old friends.

I’d definitely send your address for the wedding invite and then play the hen party by ear. 

Does she live near by? Maybe see if she wants to go out for lunch/brunch sometime soon to catch up before the big event? That way you can start to reconnect before the wedding.

Post # 6
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with Olive12– RSVP no on the FB groups and if she asks, come up with a good reason.

Post # 8
3261 posts
Sugar bee

Awkward. I would probably politely decline.

Post # 9
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d just send your address, you can always RSVP “no” later. And I agree with a PP; if you leave nearby one another, meet up for coffee or lunch and catch up before the wedding!

Post # 10
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do u know other people in the list?  Maybe if she thought some of your other close friends were invited than you’d feel left out.  Or maybe she did feel close to you at some point and even if you arn’t close now maybe at one point she thought you were and that you should be part of her day.

If  liked the girl before I’d prob go, why not?

Post # 12
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Another thought, not knowing what the hen’s list looks like, the 50 invites may be all the females invited, excluding older relatives?

Another question – are you geographically close?  When deciding what to do, for me it often comes down to “how much time and money do I need to expend to go, vs how close is this person?”  ie – Invite to a wedding on a Thurs night, in a town which is a 14 hour drive away… that requires lots of gas money, hotel, meals out, plus at least two, if not three days taken off work.  For my brother or cousin, sure thing, for a distant friend, I probably can’t justify it.

Post # 13
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d probably just wait it out a bit and see who responds before making any sort of decision. You can always give your address and then decide from there once it gets closer to the date. I agree that it seems a little awkward to be getting an invite from someone from the distant past, but maybe she’s having a huge wedding and is inviting everyone she once knew?

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