(Closed) Got a job. Now need advice on future coworkers and Facebook.

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
7106 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you are way over thinking Facebook. I would only add a co-worker if I consistently hung out with them outside of work.

Post # 4
9396 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would never, ever in a million years post anything online to disprage my employer or make myself look bad. So I dont worry about FB, and just accept whatever coworkers request me.

Post # 5
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I only add work people to my Facebook if I’m friends with them, not just coworkers.  I save coworkers for LinkedIn.  

Post # 6
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I agree with PPs. Only FB request co-workers that you hang out with outside of work, and that you can reasonably trust. I’m not sure why you are worrying about this now as you have just started your job…

Post # 7
5693 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My approach with FB is to 1) not actively add anyone.  If they reach out and add me, I’ll allow it. 2) Not put anything on FB that I would be embarassed for my boss to see.

If #2 is not goign to happen for you, put ALL of your co-workers on limited profile.

Post # 9
4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would never add co-workers on facebook… 

Post # 10
12611 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Add them if you want to, don’t add them if you don’t want to.  Facebook isn’t the be-all-end-all in friendships.  You are way over-analyzing this. 

Post # 11
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Way over analyzing this.  Working in retail, you’ll likely encounter a variety of ages and demographics.  You might make friends with a few, and you might want to friend them on facebook.  Do whatever feels right in the moment– why craft a personal policy about it when you have no idea if you’re even going to like these people or not?

Post # 12
1286 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t add people from work on FB, friends or not.  It’s nothing personal. I keep work at work, home at home. They don’t need to know every detail of what goes on at home, or in my personal life.  I’ve had co-workers, then deleted them. I’ve realized, FB was my way of bitching about them without them seeing it  LOL


Post # 13
5277 posts
Bee Keeper

@Ap2010:  I don’t think its ever a good idea to have your work life intimately involved with your personal life. I wouldn’t add coworkers to facebook at all. 

In the interest of trasparency, I guess I should also say that I don’t have a FB, but I have heard too many horror stories about this same scenario.

Post # 14
45534 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in the camp of keeping work and personal life separate.

Post # 15
1616 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Ap2010:  Never say anything against where you work on social media and you’ll be just fine!  I don’t talk about work at all on mine (unless its promoting an event I’m doing here). I’m friends with loads of people on facebook and don’t hang out with them outside work.

Another thing I did awhile ago (like years ago) was remove any photo where I’m drinking or out on the town with the girls. Didn’t want those types of pictures out there.  I’d also make it so you have to approve tags so nobody can post those sorts of photos without you approving them first.

Post # 16
7455 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Leave current coworkers off facebook, UNTIL you have left said job and if you hangout with them regularly outside of work.  People and politics of the workplace change. So its not worth it IMO.

Sadly, my friend is dealing with this now. She was cool with some coworkers & added them, but now  a year later she’s is so stressed because something has happened and wants to take them off but feels pressure not to. It seems so silly to me.

She has since created a second account,, is going to disable her main page, add them the second account.  Umm what??? Whatever, I’d delete them and be done with it. 

It’s all so freaking stupid. If coworkers ask tell them the truth “I dont’ add current coworkers to my FB”. The. End. What are they gonna do report you to HR.  

Keep your personal business OUT of the workplace. Its the safest and smartest rule to have.  


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