(Closed) Got a little bit of info out of him….not what I was hoping for!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OH my, I know how you feel. I had a meltdown when my guy told me he didn’t have any plans for a proposal. 

The good news is that he’s thinking about it and working on it. I’m pretty sure my boyfriend wanted to get the ring all set and purchased before he planned a proposal. So maybe he’s just working on the ring right now. Regardless, it seems like things are moving along (even if they’re moving slowly). And you didn’t freak out on your guy like I did, so it’s not too terrible. I hope he’s got more going on than he’s letting on. Especially if he ask an impromptu question about marriage, it’s on his mind 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Usually buying the ring springs them into action. It’s good at least that he’s thinking about it! Maybe the next time you talk about it you can give him a timeline, like “I’d really like to be engaged by February” or somethign like that so he starts thinking more along the lines of putting the plan into action.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Be careful with deadlines and ultimatums.  A lot of men turn their brains off completely to marriage and all that when you start pushing, and will either go off the idea altogether or keep pushing dates out more because you’re backing them into a corner.

Let him do what he thinks is going to be special for you.

I waited anxiously for 8 years, so I know how hard the waiting game can be.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This was me a year ago and I agree with pinkbubblegum.. I think he has more up his sleeve than he is letting on. Don’t worry, it will happen. I had talks with my fiance and he made me wait wait wait.. I got frustrated just like you. Every time we went for a walk or when we went to the beach.. I was just waiting for it to happen. Eventually I stopped talking about it because I didn’t want the talks to take away from when it actually happened. Then on a random Thursday night he just popped out of a card board box in our living room with a proposal. It was a huge surprise. Not how I had imagined it to go but it was the last thing I expected.. which is what he was going for. Perfect.

I know it’s hard, but try to enjoy the anticipation. The enjoyment of the surprise is well worth the wait. πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I also think he’s got more going on in his head about it than he wants you to know. I think he’s just trying to be pretty vague about it so he doesn’t give you too many details. If he’s talking about it and going along with the playful discussion, that’s a good sign… especially because HE brought it up. I’d say you had a good conversation, and I wouldn’t consider any of it bad news. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@LullaLee: That is hilarious that he popped out of a box!!! LOL!! I think it’s really cute, too! And definitely memorable!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

From the sounds of things you too are just too cute. I’m sure he has more planned that he is letting on.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with everyone else, sounds like the two of you are great together. I also think he has something planned but even if he has a date he wont tell you and ruin the surprise lol. Just be patient (I say to you but I’m dying waiting for mine lol) and enjoy your wonderful relationship πŸ™‚ Best of luck!!!!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011
Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@yellowlinedpage: thank you for the kind words:) Yes, he is so funny and wonderful! And I looove yellow, it’s my wedding color. Have a great day!

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance and I were looking at e-rings, I knew he would propose, but didn’t know when. I didn’t even know if he bought a ring or not…So one night I was looking at rings and talking to him, and I asked if he had looked at rings some more, and he said no, that he didn’t have time….so I was really dissapointed, I felt like he didn’t care enough about it. The next day we went out, and he proposed. He had bought the ring a week before, but didn’t want to give anything away…..

Post # 16
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Newbee

My boyfriend is STILL holding on to the ring, he bought it 6 months ago…………… Im trying my hardest to keep my mouth shut, but man HURRY UP ALREADY! I feel your pain girl

 

patience my dear *hug*

 

 

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