(Closed) Got a puppy….now I'm not sure if it was the right decision…

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 91
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just give the dog up to a foster family.

Post # 92
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Greenspot Farms

WestCoastV:  <- I have nothing nice today so I’m just going to agree with her.

Post # 93
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Blushing bee

Hi there!

 

I’m not going to yell at you for getting a puppy, and then wanting to rehome them when you realized what hard work they were.

I just wanted to elaborate that if you do decide to rehome the puppy, DO NOT GIVE THEM BACK TO THE PEOPLE YOU BOUGHT THEM FROM!

Those people are clearly backyard breeder types, whose only concern is making a profit. They are selling the puppies at way too young, selling them where impulse decision making people can get them, and clearly show no regard towards the pups going to a good home. 

If you do decide you need to rehome the pup, then find a reputable rescue. Finding a herding breed rescue, puppy rescue, aussie rescue, any sort of reputable rescue. 

Offer to foster the puppy at your residence until a suitable home can be found with a new family.

It’ll be less stressful on the puppy to only go from your place, to their new (hopefully forever) home.

If you do decide to keep the puppy, which as long as you feel you will happily care for them and not resent them (which would be a bad environment clearly for the pup), then be aware that aussie mixes are incredibly high energy. Daily walks are mandatory, running around at the dog park and going on long hikes also would be good. 

My family adopted a border collie from an open admission shelter when I was younger. She was, and still is incredibly energetic, and got into a lot of trouble as a puppy. 

My dog that my boyfriend and I adopted a week after moving was an absolute terror the first year we had her. He wanted to bring her back the first week she was home (chewing up blankets, shoes, pillows, couch, chasing my cats incessantly, biting him-he slept in the closet because she kept biting, high anxiety, just an absolute mess. I absolutely refused, because I believe an animal is a forever family member, especially dog and cats. (I have rehomed fish and guinea pigs before a cross country move, but they truly went to better homes and I brought the cats with me).

We too, got her on a whim pretty much. Went there just to look, found out she was scheduled to be euthanized, and couldn’t not bring her home when she about kissed us to death when we said hi to her. 

Had no plans on getting a dog. And if we did, we were planning on a dog at least 3-4 years, house trained, good with cats.

Shelter listed her at 2 years, vet said she was barely one. 

The first year was very trying, and we have a lot of damage due to our laziness and lack of effort in puppy training. I’m definitely more of a cat person I realized.

Still, I love this silly dog to bits. While she can make life really hard sometimes, I’m happy I refused to bring her back. She is so loyal, and loves us so much. 

 Hopefully, this helps a bit.

While I agree with previos posters that animals are forever, it’s also worse to keep an animal you resent and realize was a huge mistake if it means you won’t love and cherish them. 

Also, I feel some pictures are necessary! I want to see this puppy!

  • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  cherryfox22.
Post # 94
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Helper bee

This is a tricky situation. I worked at my local no-kill shelter for a little under two years and while we didn’t euthanize to make space (we only euthanized if an animal was severely ill and/or aggressive and was deemed unlikely to recover), if we were full, we would have to refer people to the city-ran shelter which did euthanize to make room to admit new animals. I’m not sure how shelters operate in your area, but I would look into that before dropping your dog off if that’s the route you decide.

While working at the SPCA was the most rewarding job I’ve ever had, it was also the most physically and emotionally exhausting job I’ve had. It was beyond frustrating to have people come in with a 3 month old puppy who were surprised to learn that yes, puppies DO need to be house-trained and yes, puppies DO chew things and yes, you DO need to walk a puppy to tire it out, otherwise its pent up energy often results in bad behaviour. I saw a ton of neglect and ignorance while working that job and it made me very resentful of people who didn’t do their research or gave up before even trying to fix their situation. 

On the other hand, I got my first puppy when I likely shouldn’t have and he was a nightmare. He’s 8 now and sometimes he still is! He’s a pomeranian cross, so he’s quite ‘vocal’ and he’s a leash puller despite numerous obedience courses. BUT I can’t imagine my life without him. I got him when I was still single and heading off to university in a new city, which offered a whole other set of challenges (lack of pet-friendly rentals, am I right!?) and he’s been with me through some truly hard times – the death of my mom, a number of break-ups, struggling to afford school, late nights cramming for exams – and I can’t count how many times I cried into his fur while he snuggled in next to me. He’s my shadow and won’t leave my side and he adores my boyfriend (almost more than me, the little traitor!) who took him in as his own, so to speak, when we moved in with him earlier this year.

I think you’ll find a life-long companion if you give it a chance and LOTS of patience. It won’t be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. And if you truly, truly can’t manage, please do your due diligence when finding a new family or taking it to a shelter. Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there that could do worse to this puppy than you ever could.

Post # 95
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oof, tough situation! I also work from home and hurt my knee really badly the week after we got our guy (a Lagotto), I could barely walk to let him out the first few weeks. Anyway, if you keep him my BIGGEST suggestion is containment. He slept in a crate overnight until about 8 months and during the day he was always contained if we weren’t right with him. We got an x-pen and borrowed another one from a neighbour and attached them together and put them up against a wall, so we ended up with about an 8×20′ run in the living room. His bed and toys and all that were in there, as was he. His crate was in our bedroom.

I actually moved my desk into the x pen so we could be together and he wasn’t being ignored but he also couldn’t chew anything that wasn’t his. I took lots of breaks to play with him, but I also ignored him when I was busy–he’s a crazy cuddly sweetheart but also knows he can play on his own now, I think partly because we enforced quiet independent play time as a little guy. 

Obviously if we were in the living room watching a show or something he was out with us, but there was no leaving him alone in the beginning. And I definitely put him in his crate for about 2-3 hours a day and went to work outside the house just about every day. They need to nap anyway and I needed a break. Once I could walk again I often brought him in my car, took him for a long walk, and left him to nap in a crate in my car while I went inside to work (it was spring so cool but not cold out) and then we both went home, much happier to have gotten out of the house. I know shots are an issue, but I think if you stay on pavement and in non-dog park areas and limit dog-to-dog meeting, etc. there are ways to get them safely out of the house pre 16 weeks. But check with your vet!

Anyway, as time went on (he’s 15 months now) we extended his privileges–the stairs down to the basement still have a baby gate and probably always will, but at some point he graduated to full house privileges when we were home and x-pen when we were out, and at about 11? months he graduated to full house privileges all the time, no x-pen at all. He is an abnormally good puppy (y’all are terrifying me what he could have been like!) but I think certainly think all the partitioning helps. And remember they are looking to you to be the pack leader so be firm (not mean and never after the fact) but let them know that they eat when you say it’s ok, they get on the couch when invited, they sit for pets, they sit for treats, etc. I think the nature of your dog will eventually show how much you need to keep up with ‘nothing in life is free’ but if they have boundaries they are so much more comfortable and confident in their little worlds.

And, also, if you really can’t handle him, absolutely rehome him. It’s not fair to anyone to keep him around because you feel like you should. I believe in pets for life, and we’ve rescued a pig, goats, horses, birds, cats, and dogs over the years, but its no good for anyone if you guys really aren’t a good fit. Like everyone else has said, though, it does get better! They are quirky little nutters but they are so awesome once you guys get settled in to a routine!

Post # 96
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m so sad for the poor puppy right now.  My heart is breaking!  Please don’t bring her  to a shelter! She will be killed very soon! It’s just irresponsible, cruel and immature on your part to just defer to dumping an animal off your hands like that! Please find her a good home with someone you know,  who will take care of her and love her (not dread to take care of her)! I’m sorry this is too much to handle for you,  but you’re an adult,  aren’t you? 

Post # 97
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

tagerosan:  Puppies are rarely killed at shelters unless they have a medical issue. They are highly adoptable. She will not be euthanized at all, let alone “very soon.”

Post # 98
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Blushing bee

anukk:  I know the feeling and managing puppies around cats is like mission impossible. Ive had to learn how to outsmart them and get they ubber tired continuously. Somedays I want to scream and others they just listen better but they still go through this every few months as adults. talk to local rescues some will help you with managing the pup until they can find a foster or family. I help people locally introducing cats with dogs through many rescues. Its a lot of trial and error with animals until you get into a groove. Dont feel bad about rehoming either just do it the right way. Sometimes you just dont get a pup that clicks. If you want an adult dog in the future talk to rescues and see if you can foster dhring the week when home to see if one may do well with cats. I have shepherds and many places refused to let me adopt cats due to them notoriously bad with cats. Places will understand and give time. My cats currently run the house It just took the right rescue and cats to make it work. Everyone should be happy with an adoption.  Good luck. 

Post # 99
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Busy bee

WOW! Ya’ll think having a dog is hard work? Wait until you have a baby!!!!

We have 2 dogs and it was hard at the beginning but things get easier, then baby came along and now we have 3 beautiful daughters (dogs and baby) And we could not be happier, we love them so much!

Post # 100
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Busy bee

anukk:  Also, if you had a baby would you rehome him/her because it is too much work for you to handle?

Post # 101
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

sweetpink:  it’s called putting a child up for adoption. Many people who aren’t in a position (financially, mentally, emotionally, etc.) to care for a child they bring into the world put them up for adoption for someone more capable to raise. I didn’t realize those people were deserving of condemnation. Good to know. 

Beside that, puppies and babies are not the same and the comparison is absurd. 

Post # 102
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have two dogs so I understand that puppies are work but you took home a living thing and now you are responsible for it. From my perspective that is it, the end. The dog is not being aggressive, you aren’t deathly allergic so I don’t think giving it up should be on your list of options. One of our dogs is adopted after being given up by two previous owners. My heart still breaks for him that people could just give him away because he was inconvenient (he is incredibly well behaved). We also have a boxer puppy and holy sh*t he is/was nuts. A tired puppy is a good/happy puppy. Look into local daycares, ours would go 1-2 days a week at first and had a blast, came home exhausted and slept for 12 hours straight.

Post # 103
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Busy bee

MiniMeow:  they are the same thing! Puppies are family members just like babies and your point is pretty absurd. She was willing to have a dog, she WANTED the dog. My point was, imagine someone WANTING a baby and then giving that baby up for adoption after realizing it was too much!

Post # 104
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m not going to tell you to rehome the puppy simply because you are not adjusting to fur-mommy-hood very well.

I’m going to suggest you suck it up and put on your big girl panties, and handle it. Puppies are work, you knew this going into it. But this is just a small phase compared to the joy you’ll endure for years to come. Keep working on your routine; day in and day out. It’s going to drive you mad sometimes, but this puppy has already looked at you as it’s caregiver, do NOT take that away for the selfishness of “it’s too much work.”

I know first hand what it’s like. I have four dogs, two I raised from puppy-hood. I HATED my golden when I first got her. There was even a moment when I was considering giving her up to someone. The first 10 months were brutal; her energy, lack of listening to direction, the damage she did to my house, etc. However, she turns two next month. And I couldn’t be more in love. She is literally (next to my fiance) the thing I look forward to most in my day. I HATE leaving for work because all I want to do is hang out with her.

Trust me when I say, if you let this dog go, you’ll regret it. Not only that, but then you’ll have puppy fever again in a few months. Stick with this dog, take the responsibility you’ve already committed to, and you’ll see the pay-off in a few months.

Post # 105
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

anukk:  I know you’ve gotten a lot of replies but I’ll still give mine anyways. I understand how ou’re feeling. Puppies are extremely hard work. There were a couple times my husband actually said “I can’t take it, let’s give her back to the breeder”. I’ve raised a puppy before so I knew what it was like, while he hasn’t. But we stuck with it and she is the most amazing, sweet, loving dog in the world. We love her more than anything and would never, ever dream of giving her away. I have another friend who wanted a puppy more than anything and finally got one. While she loves her dog she still to this day will tell you that she hated her as a puppy. She never neglected her or abused her, but that puppy was so difficult that she regetted getting her basically everyday when she was a puppy. But again, she stuck it out and eventually things got better and she doesn’t regret her at all. All these people are telling you to give her up because you are having a tough time with puppyhood and I don’t think that’s fair. Everyone has a tough time with puppyhood, some worse than others, but I don’t think everyone should give up their dogs because of that. You just need to put on your big girl panties and tough it out for a little longer. This won’t last forever and when she finally gets past all this, you’ll no longer regret it and you won’t believe that you ever wanted to give her up.

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