(Closed) Got a thank you card for wedding we DIDN'T attend :P

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

By any chance did you write on the RSVP “Sorry we can’t attend, but we’ll be there in spirit”?

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did you send a gift?  Perhaps they were thanking you for being gracious and supportive of their wedding, despite not attending the ceremony!

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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MissKayaker:  ah well, better to send to too many people than too few, even if it does mean that the thank you notes were very obviously thoughtless.

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Buzzing bee

Oh, woops! Would of made me chuckle too!

Post # 7
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Newbee

Thank you notes should definitely always be personalized!   And if you didn’t attend NOR send a gift, then you definitely shouldn’t have received one!  Haha, wow!  However, I know some couples include one of their wedding photos with thank you notes.  I could see that it might be appropriate for a newlywed couple to send one of those photos to folks who could not attend along with a polite note saying you hope to be able to see them soon (depends on the relationship I would think).

That said, many people send gifts even if they cannot attend a wedding, in which case a thank you note is required (again, personalized, not mass produced!).

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