- 5 years ago
So I posted to this board earlier about my 6 yer relationship that wasn’t going anywhere.
Things were looking very grim for our relationship. I was planning to walk, when I started having very intense anxiety attacks (I’d never had anxiety attacks before) and other life things happened (my verbally abusive and controlling father trying to ruin my mother’s life, parents divorcing).
So I decided to put it off, since I knew it would be a very difficult thing for me to do. I was only walking because I thought that he didn’t want what I wanted (marriage) and that he was wasting my time and putting it off himself. I wasn’t expecting things to get better, especially after 2 years of being in this stagnant situation.
Fast forward to yesterday. I had told him I would like to talk around a week ahead of time, to see where he was.
He then started saying things like this:
“I’m sorry for not being there for you for the past 6 months. I appreciate that you have been supportive, even though it’s been hard for you. It’s not fair to you.”
“You are a great girlfriend, no BETTER… you are excellent. You really have treated me well for the past 6 years”
“You are a mother at heart, you are really nurturing and will be a great mom.”
“What does a proposal look like to you?”
“When would you be expecting a marriage proposal and marriage?”
And I just sat there, shocked with my jaw on the floor.
I have timeline for a marrige within the next year set. HOW. I don’t even- WHAT.
Did that just happen? HOLY CRAP.