(Closed) Got a timeline…that a ring wont be coming soon :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Keep yourself busy until that timeline. if you have not read Mr. Bee’s Plan, I recommend you read it and follow his words. Since he wants to surprise you, he may be throwing you off so your not catching on to anything. Keeping yourself busy is key!! When I kept busy and stopped talking wedding, it gave him a chance to think. Last week he confessed that he purchased my ring!! Still waiting, but it’s not too far off now!! Good luck!

 

 

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I totally understand how you feel!  First of all, kudos to you for being patient for 5 years!!  I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and for the past year I’ve been going nuts wondering when it’s going to be ‘ring time’ lol.  I found out he was thinking of proposing last January…he said it would happen “in 2011″…funny story, today is the LAST day of 2011!!  So I guess it’s not happening this year.  I made timelines too…like “it needs to happen by my birthday” or “by Thanksgiving”, you know, stuff like that…I don’t share my timelines with him because he just doesn’t get it.  There are some things that he understands where I’m coming from, but most of the time it’s ‘girl stuff’ that he just doesn’t get….it’s frustrating of course…but then I come on here to WB and I learn that I’m not alone and I feel better!  That’s all I can do really, cause otherwise I just want to scream HURRY UP!!!  Haha! Good luck, I hope it happens by the 5 year mark!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Have you discussed why he doesn’t think it’ll happen by then?  If its a money thing, have you considered more affordable rings or a “placeholder stone” like a CZ?  He can always upgrade you later, and besides, the moment will mean enough that even a Ring Pop will feel special (mine doesn’t fit & I can’t bring myself to exchange it!  Too sentimental!)

If its another reason, discuss it with him and find ways that you can work towards whatever goals he wants in place first.  My guy wanted to finish school, so the best I could do was wait & support him while he finished up law school.  Some guys want to get a promotion, pay off debt, etc etc.

It is a really tough subject to talk about, but if it would help your peace of mind/make waiting easier to know where he stands & whats holding him back, let him know.

Post # 7
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh I know how you feel. We got engaged just shy of our 5 year anniversary and I was about completely insane by then. I tried so hard not to bring it up all the time but it consumed me. I felt like that “5 years” bomb was just ticking and it was making me question if I was wasting my time or something.

Anyway.. we had discussed looking at rings and I told him that I would not look at rings unless a proposal was within 6 months. I overestimated my ability to wait 6 months though. I was losing it by month 3. It was about month 4.5 that he proposed.

I don’t have any other advise besides just try to not bring it up. You’re both on the same page and he’s saving and it’s going to happen so just chill. It’s easier said than done believe me.. but try.

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

5K is a LOT of money, about 5x the cost of my ring! I think if you’re expecting a ring that expensive you really can’t lose your shit over when it happens – saving up that much cash can take quite a while.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Throwing this out there, if finances are a major issue and you make a considerable amount more than him; would you both be willing to contribute to the cost of the ring?

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

A friend of mine told her boyfriend that he had until her 30th birthday to propose or she would propose to him. He proposed just a few days before her birthday.

I told my boyfriend that he had until our 5 year mark to pop the question or I would do the same. Our 5 year anniversary came and went without a ring and I started to get antsier than I even thought was possible.

Then my birthday came and went without a ring and I thought I would have a mental breakdown!

Fast forward another month and we were spending a unremarkable yet perfect Saturday together and there was the most perfect ring I could ever imagine.

Now that I’m 8 1/2 months into the craziness of my 16 month engagement I’m glad that we waited. We are both in a much better place financially to pay for the wedding we want. Not having the stress of a financial strain because of our wedding is totally worth the wait.

Bottom line, everything happens when it should (which I hated to hear while I was not so patiently waiting) and it will be perfect when it happens.

Good luck and stay strong!

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