(Closed) Got an interesting email today…

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I wouldn’t say anything to her.  Let it run its course.  But I would NOT buy a dress, haha.  I’m sure you weren’t planning on it.  I’m sure this “itch” will pass before your “deadline” even gets here.  


Post # 4
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I read your post ones…and didn’t understand half of it….LOL dresses, website, friend, boyfriend, Colorado….sorry maybe I wasn’t attentive..but it was confusing…

Post # 5
47458 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ToTheRiot:  I would keep your mouth shut. She doesn’t need you or anyone else telling her how to live her life.

Post # 6
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ToTheRiot:  I think she’s just excited to be getting married in the somewhat-near future.  I had a wedding pinterst board a good 6-8months out before I got engaged (maybe even a year…. i dont remember lol).  But I wouldn’t worry about what she picks now honestly… I’ve never known a bride to stay with EXACTLY what she picked out unless it was a short engagement. Like I’ve changed my mind so many times and so have a lot of ppl in my circle. 

Personally I’d just sit back and watch how it plays out.  Saying something to her could piss her off. But then again, I’m more of a “let it play out” kinda girl.

Post # 7
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@ToTheRiot:  the deadline to but isn’t until the end of next year? I wouldn’t worry about it. If they’ve broken up five times in their first year together it’s very likely they won’t even be together by then. If they are deal with it then by suggesting she wait until closer to her wedding date in case her tastes change or someone gains or loses a lot of weight. 

Post # 8
8482 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wouldnt say anything to her. It’ll most likely pass by. If she starts mentioning it to you, tell her that you wont buy a dress until she has the exact date picked, the venue paid for, and her dress. Buying BM’s dresses before all that is just silly.

Post # 9
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree, I think it will pass. Just remember, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!

Post # 11
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@ToTheRiot:  Casually mention how much fashion/designers change in 5 years. No point in looking a dress that will be discontinued in a year. I think she is putting a lot of pressure talking about marriage so early before the proposal so I agree that will drive him away but I don’t think you should mention anything about that part. 

Post # 12
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@Pixienickie:  +1 Great idea! Totally agree. 

Post # 13
1228 posts
Bumble bee

Whenever I read someone that someone has the wedding itch, I think “why?!” Hahahah. I have the marriage itch.. I want to be married without having to plan the whole wedding.. But it must be done. 

She sounds just young and immature. The very best thing you can do for yourself? Ignore her and focus on your own happiness. You will get sucked into her life if you don’t focus more on yourself.

Post # 14
956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would keep my mouth shut, too. It will not be received well. I would certainly encourage her to not put any money down until 18 months before the wedding. (that includes you buying a dress)

If she gets defensive, mention how new things (even venues!) come out every year. She may fall in love with something she loves MORE and she shouldn’t settle, yet.

Post # 15
51 posts
Worker bee

I was one of those weird kids that had a Knot account at age 10. I think there is a fascination with weddings and the frilly dresses. 5 years is a long timeline and I’m sure her tastes will change. Take it as a compliment that shes “taken” your wedding colors for now. It means she really respects your taste. Who knows what time of year her future wedding will be or what colours will be popular then.

She’s obviously going overboard with the pre-planning but she will calm down when she realizes there is a marriage and hard work at the end of the wedding rainbow!

Post # 16
48 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think she needs a reality check and should worry about her focus when your wedding is over

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