(Closed) Got demoted to bridesmaid, LOL.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

I understand why you feel demoted but I wouldn’t say anything to her. Her sober decision is likely the most appropriate for her and bringing it up might make her feel guilty. However, if she asked you, drunk or not, it’s clear that she considers you her best friend. Most likely, at the time, she was thinking about how much she values you as a friend and asking you to be Maid/Matron of Honor seemed like the best way to say that in her moment of excitement. Chances are, once she thought about it, she realized that sisters usually fill that role and maybe her sister would be hurt by not being made Maid/Matron of Honor. Try not to take it as a demotion. Just take the whole thing as a compliment!


Post # 4
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This seems like the sort of thing you could bust her chops about in a few years. For now, just pretend like the Maid/Matron of Honor thing never happened. She was probably in one of those drunk, emotional moments that can be quite embarassing when you’re reminded of them when sober.

Post # 5
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Haha, to be honest, I’d probably say something, but it would be very light and joking.  I might answer a question with, “Oh sure….now that I’ve been demoted!” and then explain what she had said.  My friends and I tease each other, though, and would get a giggle out of it (as long as it was clear that no feelings were hurt).  You know her best!

Post # 6
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, I wouldn’t mention it. It would probably just make her feel bad. Be glad you’re a bridesmaid & don’t worry about it–besides, there’s lots of stress involved with being a Maid/Matron of Honor, including planning showers/bachelorette parties, etc. Be glad you don’t have to do that too 😉

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