(Closed) Got Engaged. Two Days Later, Mom Diagnosed with Cancer

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry to hear about your mother’s diagnosis.  How heartbreaking ๐Ÿ™

But I am SO happy to hear about your wedding coming up.  You sound like you have a wonderful Fiance, amazing IL’s and I’m sure it will be the most beautiful day ever, full of love and happiness.

Biggest hugs!

Post # 18
447 posts
Helper bee

Aww, OP, we are here if you just need to type it all out loud… congratulationson your engagement to a wonderful Fiance.  I am sorry to hear your sad news and I wish you and all concerned strength together.

Post # 19
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am sorry what you are going thru, I can only image. I hop you and your loved ones find the strength, support and hope. Keep praying. hugs

Post # 20
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I’m so sorry that you have to go through this, but it’s wonderful that your mother will be able to see you get married.  All the best to you and yours!

Post # 21
1502 posts
Bumble bee

@sewn: My heart goes out to you along with my prayers.  I think it’s normal not to feel ready, and I don’t know how you could feel ready. But I do know you have her with you now and the day you get married will probably be the best day of her life.  

Post # 22
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I know losing a parent is a difficult thing to go through. I lost my mom 3 years ago and it makes me sad that she wont be at my wedding. Cherish the time you have with her , and like PP’s have said, I’m positive that her watching you marry the love of your life will be a highlight of her life. it’s going to be an amazing day filled with tons of love. It sounds like you have an amazing man.
If you need anything feel free to contact me .

Post # 23
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

First I am sorry you are going through this and secondly congratulations on your engagement. 


My father was diagnosed with thyroid cancer at the end of March 2011 and had his operation in the second week of April 2011.  It was so stressful right before my husband and I married in May 29th 2011.  I understand your worries and concerns. I am lucky as my father is doing great especially with stage IV thyroid cancer. I pray for your mother. Have much hope and faith as nothing is impossible. I wish you only the best. 


Post # 24
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

be prayerful & gig your mom every chance you get.  

Post # 25
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

When I first clicked into this post, I was hopeful it wasn’t advanced or was treatable. My heart sank when I read pancreatic cancer; my mom passed away four years ago from it. I understand the confusion and hell you’re going through, so if you ever need to talk feel free to PM me. I think you’re doing a great thing in getting married quickly, if I had been in the position to do the same thing I would’ve. It means so much that you’ll be able to have her there.

Congratulations on your engagement. Sounds like you’re marrying an amazing guy and into a great family. 

Post # 26
1943 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry to hear about your mom.  Trying to stop tearing up now… *hugs* I can’t even imagine.

I think it makes perfect sense for you to get married soon while she can still be there. I’m sure your wedding day will be gorgeous, even if it isn’t what you had always imagined.  Could some of your friends fly in, too?

I’m so glad your mom is happy with your choice of Fiance, and I hope that you are able to find joy in your engagement and wedding despite the overwhelming sadness. 

Post # 27
27 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

@sewn:  Thank you for posting this. I come to the bee to distract myself from my sorrows, and really feel for you. My mother was recently diagnosed with advanced metastatic lung cancer and like your mom, has probably only months left to live. I am engaged as well and having a terrible time dealing with the prospect of living without her but also the loss of a previously happily-anticipated and envisioned event with many years of dreaming and planning. I know I sound shallow, but it breaks my heart that not only do I have to lose my mom but that the most significant and supposedly happy event of my life will be sad. I’m currently trying to figure out when I should get married to make sure she’s well enough to attend in between treatments and before she declines too much. Message me if you want to chat. I wish you and your mom and family all the best. 

Post # 28
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I just wanted to say you and your family are and will be in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Your wedding will bth incredibly beautiful because your family will be a part of it <3

Post # 29
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sewn:  congratulations about your engagement and your upcoming wedding – even if it isn’t exactly what you had always imagined, it will be beautiful and full of love.  I am so sorry to hear about your mom.  I hope she is able to be comfortable in the time she has left, and to really enjoy watching her daughter get married ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I just wanted to add that my grandmother (75ish) was diagnosed about 14 months ago with pancreatic cancer (adenocarcinoma).  It was metastatic at the time of diagnosis, so inoperable.  I am a physician myself and actually specialize in anestheisa for hepatobiliary tract surgery, so pancreatic cancer is well within my realm of understanding.  I found her a surgeon I respect deeply as a physician and person, and he said “single digit months” when I asked about life expectancy.  He said he would recommend palliative rather than aggressive chemo if it was his loved one.  I agreed.  My grandmother was having none of that talk, and opted for aggressive chemo.  14 months later she is thinner, but doing very very well, with stable disease on her scans, and very few side effects from her chemo.  I did not expect she would be at my wedding, but with less than 3 weeks to go it is certainly looking like she will be dancing at it.  I admire that your mother has made some peace with her diagnosis, but I also hope for her (and you) that she proves all the experts wrong!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 31
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am so sorry for this sad news during a happy time in your life. I will have your family in my thoughts and prayers. 

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