Post # 1
Hi Everyone! So I got hitched and couldnt really afford to have a party or wedding at the time. Now (4 years later) I want I have a celebration for my 5 year anniversary coming up next year but not sure if I should call it a wedding? Or if it is tacky? Mostly I want to have this because we didn’t get to include much of our families on the wedding day. Any Ideas?
Post # 2
Call it a vow renewal and have fun!
Post # 3
MonicaRJ: It can’t be a wedding because you are already married. You can plan a vow renewal.
Post # 4
agreed! It is a vow renewal. Celebrate it however you want in whatever way works for you and your dh 🙂
I think it would be inappropriate to register for gifts or to expect a bachelorette or shower….. but if celebrating with close friends and family is what you missed out on the first time, and what you really want…. then you can certainly have all of this with a vow renewal.
Post # 5
Go ahead and have a vow renewal! Just don’t expect or except gifts, showers, or bachelor/bachelorette parties.
Post # 6
I’d not call it a wedding or a reception, but if you call it a vow renewal (if you want to actually have a ceremony) or an anniversary bash (if you’d like to plan a beautiful party), that’s well within the bounds of etiquette and fun. Good luck!
Post # 7
Just my opinion, but I don’t really get the point of vow renewals. To me it feels like people who do them, especially after relatively short periods of time (5 years vs 25 years, for example), are trying to prove their marriage is strong or something. I’m sure others disagree, but that’s just how I perceive them.
But if you want the party-fun of a wedding, why not just have an big anniversary party? You can make it as elaborate (or not) as you want. And although I wouldn’t register for it, chances are good that many of the guests will come bearing gifts.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222
I have an unpopular opinion and it’s that if you want to call your party a wedding then you should go ahead! Legally, of course, you are already married but I really don’t see the harm in calling it a wedding. Do you!
Post # 9
MonicaRJ: another vote for vow renewal
Post # 10
Fuck it, who cares. Do what you like and call it what you like!
Post # 12
Go for it and congrats!! Any advice to us newbies (newbees? ;)) on secrets to a happy first five years?
It WOULD be very weird to call it a wedding, but vow renewal is fine, as is anniversary party. Feel free to wear white and have a blast!!!!!
Post # 13
You only live once! Pop an explanation in the invitess, buy a big dress, and enjoy your wedding day Bee!