(Closed) Got invited to a shower…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should I RSVP?
    Call the lady listed, she's listed for a reason. : (24 votes)
    62 %
    Call your cousin (bride's sister) - she's cohosting so it's fine. : (14 votes)
    36 %
    Assume they know you're not coming, since you live across the country. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    46670 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Call the number listed. She is obviously the person who is responsible for tracking the RSVP’s.

    Having gone through the RSVP process with your own wedding, I am sure you can appreciate that by responding to the designated person, you are saving extra phone calls on the other end.

    How much effort and time will it take?

    “Hi, this is ______, __________’s cousin, I’m calling to thank you for the invitation to _________’s shower. Unfortunately , I won’t be able to attend.

    I would like to send a gift. Should I send it to your address or somewhere else?”

    Write, phone, or email your cousin (if the shower is not a surprise ) and also express your regrets.

    Post # 4
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Call the number listed.  Seriously.  I co-hosted my sister’s shower with another bridesmaid, listing myself as the contact person.  Some people who knew my co-host better than they knew me called her to RSVP.  A couple of aunts called my mom to RSVP.  It was so ANNOYING and hard to keep track. 

    Post # 5
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i also don’t understand why it’s awkward. truly no offense, it’s not as if you have to chat with the girl though! just give a call, and even better if she doesn’t pick up, you can just leave a message!

    Post # 6
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

     I’m with you, I hate phone calls like that, too but you’re RSVP with plenty of notice and you’re still sending a gift so you have NOTHING to feel bad about!

    Post # 7
    4518 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Yeah, just call the # listed. She’ll be expecting phone calls from all the invitees, so it shouldn’t be too awkward. 

    I also hate making these phone calls–email is easier!–but she might not even pick up if she doesn’t recognize your number…she could figure it’s an RSVP and let it go to voicemail.


    Post # 9
    7295 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    haha, i am like you and hate making calls to people i dont know. i would probabaly call the brides sister. 

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