Post # 1
My cousin is getting married this summer! I’m so excited for her!!!
Her shower is next month though, on the other side of the country. I can’t go, sadly, but will be sending a gift.
Here’s my question: The invite says 3 people are hosting, two women I don’t know (well, I know their names, it’s my aunt’s 2 bffs) and my other cousin, bride’s sister. The RSVP number is for one of the bffs. I’ve never met her, and haaaaaaaaaate making these kinds of calls, because they’re SO AWKWARD!
Can I just let my cousin (the sister, not the bride) know I’m not coming instead? Or is that rude of me?
Post # 3
Call the number listed. She is obviously the person who is responsible for tracking the RSVP’s.
Having gone through the RSVP process with your own wedding, I am sure you can appreciate that by responding to the designated person, you are saving extra phone calls on the other end.
How much effort and time will it take?
“Hi, this is ______, __________’s cousin, I’m calling to thank you for the invitation to _________’s shower. Unfortunately , I won’t be able to attend.
I would like to send a gift. Should I send it to your address or somewhere else?”
Write, phone, or email your cousin (if the shower is not a surprise ) and also express your regrets.
Post # 4
Call the number listed. Seriously. I co-hosted my sister’s shower with another bridesmaid, listing myself as the contact person. Some people who knew my co-host better than they knew me called her to RSVP. A couple of aunts called my mom to RSVP. It was so ANNOYING and hard to keep track.
Post # 5
i also don’t understand why it’s awkward. truly no offense, it’s not as if you have to chat with the girl though! just give a call, and even better if she doesn’t pick up, you can just leave a message!
Post # 6
I’m with you, I hate phone calls like that, too but you’re RSVP with plenty of notice and you’re still sending a gift so you have NOTHING to feel bad about!
Post # 7
Yeah, just call the # listed. She’ll be expecting phone calls from all the invitees, so it shouldn’t be too awkward.
I also hate making these phone calls–email is easier!–but she might not even pick up if she doesn’t recognize your number…she could figure it’s an RSVP and let it go to voicemail.
Post # 8
I hate calling almost anyone 🙂 I’m just not a phone person. I even make my husband order takeout and pizza and stuff, or do it online (LOVE Foodler!), or go without, hahaha…
Sigh, okay. I’ll put my big girl panties on and call her tonight. I’m just sending the gift wherever the registry has it automatically mailed though, she can get it at home rather than opening it at the shower.
Post # 9
haha, i am like you and hate making calls to people i dont know. i would probabaly call the brides sister.