Post # 1
I got invited to an “online baby shower” via email. My friend Michelle’s sister sent me the invite for Michelle’s online baby shower. Basically they want us send her gifts to her house from online registries and not have a party. Like no gathering, no food, no games.. nothing… Has anyone been ” invited” to these? Is this a new norm? This girl Michelle went to my wedding so I ended up just sending her a $40 gift and calling it a day because I like the girl. I just feel like this is in poor taste. Am I wrong? I am not going to say anything about it to anyone. I just sent the gift and that is it. But I just feel a little used by this. What do you think?
Post # 2
Uhhh no. That is definitely NOT a thing. I honestly would not have even sent a gift if I were invited to an online “shower.”
Post # 3
It is in incredibly poor taste and you were very kind to participate despite that. Why doesnt she just cut to the chase and make a gofundme page UGH. I definitely would have just ignored that “invite”, used indeed.
Post # 4
So…..not a shower. Just a gift grab. Terrible.
Post # 5
So you got an e-mail that said ‘Congratulations, I picked you to buy me stuff but I don’t want to see your face, sorry.’!?
It’s incredibly generous of you to send a present. I would probably have, too – and then I would have sent an invite for an online birthday-shower. And online christmas-shower. And online vacation-shower. Easter-shower. I’m-sad-it’s-monday-shower. As long as the message sinks in.
Post # 6
I participated in an online shower for a friend who had moved to another country! It was great to celebrate with her even though she was so far away. But this sounds different.
Post # 7
It’s not an online shower. It’s, please take a look at our registry and send us gifts!
They are just prettying it up by calling it an online shower. I have never heard of an online shower.
If you want to share your registry for people to send you gifts, just have the balls to do it. Being fake about it makes it even worse.
Post # 8
woah, gift grabby. i would decline and not send a gift.
if i really liked michelle, i would bring a gift when i visited after the baby is born.
Post # 9
What?!? An online shower to skip on entertaining & refreshments/finger foods for the guests (given that guests are able to drive to a venue together). The other day I was just reading a thread about a bride wanting to invite some guests to the ceremony only and not for the reception afterwards. Seriously, WTF are these people thinking?!? Some people have balls!
Post # 10
Meh, does anyone actually like attending showers? I only go out of a sense of obligation. I’d much rather something like this where I can send a gift without the guilt of declining the party.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
Yeah, that doesn’t sound like an online shower! I didn’t attend it, but one of my old childhood friends had an online shower – she didn’t just ask for gifts, she opened all of them in a video stream so people who couldn’t attend would be able to see it. They actually live very far away from most of their family and friends, so I though this was a good compromise for people who wouldn’t travel to a baby shower. I sent a gift but didn’t watch the video – opening gifts is actually my least favorite part of any type of shower
Post # 12
you are nicer than me. I would have sent a virtual card with a congratulations, for a virtual shower….
Post # 13
Unless she’s on bed rest (which I assume you would know about!) an unable to have a traditional shower, this is incredibly tacky.
Agree with pp- I wouldn’t have sent a gift (on principle) but would have brought dinner & a gift over once the baby is born.
Post # 14
That takes balls to be that tacky! She would get nothing.
Post # 15
I like attending showers! Well, I guess it depends on who’s going to be there. I don’t like showers if I don’t know anyone there. I like seeing all the gifts opened up, hanging out with everyone and then all the food….maybe I’m just weird lol
Yeah, I think a virtual shower is pretty rude! If I wasn’t super close to the person I wouldn’t have sent anything. Definitely gift grabby.