- 5 months ago
Yay we’re married!! We were riding on the wedding high for 2 days. It was such a good day and everything was perfect, even the few little imperfections were perfect (and funny).
Some things I didn’t expect to feel or think or happen:
– people on here often talk about wedding bringing out the worst in people, but I think I really saw the best in people at our wedding. Guests made the effort to come from near and far (some overseas) and were super generous, our jaws dropped at some of the gifts. You don’t measure love with money, but we certainly felt the love through the gifts (big or small).
– But it was the random strangers that really surprised me. There were so many random people congratulating and complimenting us, we lost count. It definitely made me all warm and fuzzy. Our photographer said he sees this all the time at weddings, he thinks it is testament that people still hold marriage and weddings in high regard. When this stops happening (or happen less and less), you know that weddings are going to decline.
– you do all this planning, but on the day none of those details, the little props, decorations and flowers (other than the bouquet which is in a lot of photos) seem to matter. Guests don’t care. They just want to have a good time and enjoy the process. And we certainly didn’t care or even notice, we were too busy being swept up in it all. I’m glad I didn’t spend much money and time (bare minimum) on those little things and skipped things where I can.
– Other than skilled jobs like photographer and videographer etc, use service providers who are not traditionally or primarily wedding providers. Like venues, hotels, even music! For one, they’re cheaper and more flexible in their offering. They also seem so much more humble and almost honoured to be asked to be a part of the wedding. And they work SO HARD to impress and going above and beyond to make the day special for you. We were super impressed by the additional efforts and nice touches by our music duo, our hotel, and the reception venue, none of which are traditionally or mainly wedding related.
– I didn’t think things would feel different after the wedding but it does. We seem softer and more gentle with each other (we’ll see how long that lasts lol). And it just feels like we’re now officially family, officially in this together. We’re “us” instead of you and me. We’ve been together almost 4 years, but this feels different and really nice.
What are some of the nice things you didn’t expect at your wedding?