(Closed) Got married on aug 3 things went well but feeling sad? anyone else feel this way

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: After your wedding did you feel
    Sad : (8 votes)
    24 %
    Happy : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Relieved : (8 votes)
    24 %
    Confused : (1 votes)
    3 %
    joyfull : (4 votes)
    12 %
    blissful : (5 votes)
    15 %
    angry : (0 votes)
    Tearful : (0 votes)
    Cant stop smiling : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It’s hard when you plan for so long and it’s over in the blink of an eye. I wish I had done some things different too and I get upset, but I remind myself that it’s really not a big deal. Now we are married and that’s what is important.

    Post # 4
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    829 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    You should plan a vow renewal.. have a small party on a Saturday and renew your vows.

    My wedding went great but I loved the fact of having everyone together I decided to have a party for our 1 yr anniversary LOL In a few years we will do a vow renewal.

     

    Post # 5
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    2249 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    no matter what- it goes too fast. I planned ours to go really long because I knwe I would want to savor every second, and people stayed untill 11, and it still felt like it was over in the blink of an eye! I would focus on what you loved about the day and your new husband, and maybe plan a fun and relaxed one year anniversary party where you can spend the time with your family.

    Post # 6
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I see what you are saying. Your heart and soul went into planning the biggest event of your life and it’s shocking to realize that it isn’t as big a deal to everyone else. To that effect, I was shocked at the people who RSVP’d no, didn’t RSVP and left my wedding early. But one of my BIGGEST pet peeves is when I’m trying to leave something and I”m held hostage by the organizer. It makes me never want to see that person again. I don’t like feeling trapped. So I gracefully let people come and go as they needed to and didn’t give anyone a hard time for RSVPing no. I focused on my husband and honestly there were so many wonderful moments that day that anything even slightly disappointing is easy to forget about πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
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    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think since you had it on a weekday in the afternoon that made it a bit odd for people. Beyond that I think you’re choosing to focus on the negative and that will only bring you down. Why not focus on all the things that DID go right?

    You can’t change what happened so I understand why you’re disappointed but continuing to focus on the negative things will only keep you in a funk for longer.

    Post # 8
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    How about telling us about the lovely parts? That might help you focus on the positive. I know most people would have trouble with a weekday wedding that was in the middle of the day – but you can’t go back and change it, so maybe post some great pics and tell us your favorite parts? That’s usually the best way for me to get myself focusing in something happier.

    Post # 10
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    In the big group photo, you and your husband look so happy πŸ™‚ Try to capture that glee and think about how while your wedding is only one day, your marriage is endless

    Post # 11
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    1016 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    It sounds like you had the most important parts of a wonderful wedding – a loving and supportive husband, your families who also love you, good food! and fun memories like karaoke with your sister!

    You were a beautiful bride and your husband is so  handsome too.  I still wonder how my wedding was for everyone else and it is sad to think that you never get to recapture the day or have all the same people together again but think of how blessed you were (all of us who have had the same are!) to have had that experience at all – some people never get to be surrounded by people who love them when they start their married lives with the person they love the most!  Think of all the wonderful moments that lie ahead – hopefully you’ll be more happy than sad if you think of it that way!

    Post # 12
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    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Don’t feel bad. I think it is great advice to focus on the positive but you’re not a weirdo or anything. I was very upset about my ceremony. (We started late because of my hair which I hated anyway, people didn’t know to stand up for me, most were hot and sweaty by then, I didn’t write vows, my pictures are not as smiley as they should be, etc.) We’ll get over it.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    lovely photo! yes weekday weddings can be harder than weekends.. people find it alittle harder to stay late but the photos show you having fun and am sure the day was great even if it didnt last as long as you wanted…focusing on the great parts will help you to stop feelin sad

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