Post # 1
Ok ladies, so we sent out about 56 invites, with about 95 people invited (we accounted for all the single people having a guest) but a lot of the single people who have RSVP’d did not rsvp a guest, and are coming solo. Also, some of the couples we invited will not make it either, so we are on track for only having about 70 right now and we would like about 80 to 85. I dont have any extra invitations left, but i do have a couple other friends that i would like to invite to come. Shold i just verbally extend the invite to them? They are in their younger 20’s and dont care about allnthe formalitities of it…and just direct them to our website for info and directions? Do you ladies think this is trashy?
Please let me know what i should do!
Post # 3
We did that! We were down to the wire and weren’t sure if we were going to meet our minimums so we basically told some of my husband’s work friends that they could come and eat our free food!
Post # 4
Oh man! You’re so lucky, I hope I can have around 70 ppl at my wedding, but i just doesnt seems possible (FI family is HUGE) lol
If it were me, I would extend a verbal invite. I dont know how etiquette says you should do it, but I dont really see anything wrong with it. I guess as long as they have all the correct info.
Post # 5
thanks mrsasb! that is great! my FH wants to invite some more guys from his work so maybe i will have him verbally invite them. I might do the same with a couple of my girlfriends.
Post # 6
OMG I want to send out “B list” (I know, that term sounds bad) invites soooooo badly! But I’m not certain of the actual numbers yet… people are holding out on responding! Kinda annoying… Grrrr.
Post # 7
I might also (if you want to give them something) get a box of DIY invites at Michaels and print them off – they are pretty quick to print and assemble!
Post # 8
@ddubzz…we have only gotten about 33 rsvp’s back out of 56 and our deadline is next wednesday, but we have already gotten more no’s than we expected from people we thought were definately coming, so its safe for us to invite maybe an extra 5-6 people…
Post # 9
I would make more invitations but less formal. You can pick some up at Michaels for cheap and hand out about 20 more invites. I am 30 and probably would not care if someone verbally told me But I think they are more likely to come with an invite:)
Post # 10
i dont have time for that, my stationary lady wants my seating chart by next wednesday at the latest.
Post # 11
I am really really nervous of this happening!
My mom is really into the formalities and in most cases, so am I, but I think that if we don’t get enough “yes” reply cards then we will just send them to some people late…and the people we will do that to won’t be the types who know about the proper ettiquite anyways
Post # 12
If they don’t mind the informality then I don’t see why not!
Post # 13
I don’t really see anything wrong with inviting them verbally. Alternatively you could pick up a few blank invitations from Target or something and print or fill them out yourself. That way they have an invitation even if it is different from your original invites. Good luck!
Post # 14
I know that there are some inexpensive ways to make a formal invitation that you could design with email responses or even a phone call to you to give you an opportunity to do a quicker head count!