(Closed) Got my first “no” RSVP today – from FI’s parents.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m so sorry. I know that must be disappointing. Are they supportive of your marriage in general and just choosing not to attend the celebration or do they disapprove of the marriage?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Jehovah’s Witnesses will not attend services for any other denomination.

At least, not that I’m aware of…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

….really? Then I have to admit I’m a bit baffled. My grandmother is a devout Jehovah’s Witness and my Uncle chose to have a civil ceremony specifically so she could attend. Ooohhh is it because your Fiance left the faith?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow! It’s really too bad they will be missing out on seeing their son get married. They are really going to regret it. How does your Fiance feel? It’s hurtful to you both right now but in the end, they are the ones hurting themselves. I’m really sorry to hear this.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It sounds as though he was disfellowshipped. Many of my family members are Jehovah’s Witnesses and have been for more than 50 years. While they will not attend services in a church, they usually will attend a wedding if it is held at a reception hall, home or other non-religious place. Thery will attend service held in the Kingdom Hall.

They also usually will associate with non-witnesses and former witnesses. It sounds as though your Fiance has been disfellowshipped, similar to excommunicated.

According to their religion they aren’t supposed to have any contact with him (which they still do!)

Usually, this happens when one has committed one of various sins and is unrepentant. It can be something as serious as adultery or child abuse, or anything as seemingly trivial as attending a church.

I’ve heard of Witnesses attending a reception only when the ceremony takes place in a church or involves “worldly” rites or traditions. If his parent are devout JWs, they might be against attending the reception if “worldly” music and dancing will occur.

I’m sorry this is your situation Cry Maybe ask your Fiance about it, or his parents if you have a good relationship with them (but it doesn’t seem likely if they aren’t supposed to interact with him). If he was disfellowshipped, they may still interact with him privately, but they risk being disfellowshipped as well if it is known that they are publicly associating with him. And, if you die while disfellowshipped, JWs are not supposed to even attend the funeral.

Chin up and know that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their religion. I know it’s difficult, but it is what it is.

 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

REALLY? That is awful I am so sorry ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ™

Has Fiance talked to them about it? Has he tried to get them to come?? You must be devastated Im really sorry I cant even imagine

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m sorry to hear that, but even more sorry that your sisters may not be able to make it.  I think that would be more of downer than if the FI’s parents couldn’t come.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry! The invite process has been hard for me at times as well, when people you would really like to come back out! I would try to focus on all the family and friends who are special to you and can come!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

So sorry to hear this….I know it must be difficult….my father recently told me he won’t be attending my wedding (due to his own religious/spiritial beliefs).  He isn’t a follower of any particular religion, but beliefs god is against this type of wordly celebration.  It’s tough, but hang in there ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am so sorry to hear this.  My dad didn’t attend my wedding either (due to non- religious stuff at that).  It’s hard to not have family at the most important day of your life.

Why can’t your sisters come? (I’m sorry if that was too personal)

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