(Closed) Got my first “regret to decline”

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

so far, most of ours have been declines, but we kind of expected it (being several states away from both our families) – just look on the bright side… =D

Post # 5
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Look at it this way – Once you start getting more “yays” than “nays” and begin stressing about going over space/budget allowances, you’ll be secretly happy for all the declines!

Post # 6
900 posts
Busy bee

My mom and my fiance went overboard with their guest lists.  Every “no” response is a blessing.  Unless it is someone I really wanted to be there and assumed would come.

Post # 7
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’ve had a few so far…most of them were expected, but we were still holding out hope that they could come, so it did sting a bit that they can’t.  But such is life…there have been weddings I wanted to attend but couldn’t for whatever reason, so it only makes sense.  Just try to focus on being happy about the yes responses!

Post # 8
45 posts
  • Wedding: April 2010

It’s sad if someone declines, I’ll admit I totally will be if people decline. I’m going to look at the bright side though… we’re trying to keep it to 80 people but so many people have already been to overjoyed about our wedding that we’ve had to extend it to 95 already. haha

Post # 9
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Dont worry – itll be better when you get the Yes’s!

Post # 10
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My VERY FIRST RSVP was a no!!  It was expected that that person would decline, but the VERY FIRST one I got in the mail!!!

You’ll be ok, the first one is the worst, then you kinda get used to it.

Post # 11
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

🙁 I’m sorry! That makes me sad for you! At least… its one less plate you have to budget for? Realize that’s not much to go on but… hey.

Post # 12
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) Your day will be beautiful and surrounded by the people that love you the most.

Post # 13
217 posts
Helper bee

I know the feeling! Our VERY FIRST one was a big fat no. No explanation just checked the box NO! I got it the very next day after I sent the invites out. SHe (my step aunt) must have chased down the mail man immediately after he delivered it. *SNORT* I knew they wouldn’t come but sheesh! It stung a bit after all the hard work of putting them together and putting them in the mail. AND I’ll always write something on the RSVP from here on out. I LOVED getting little messages. 

Post # 14
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It’s hard to remember that a decline isn’t necessarily a lack of desire to be at the wedding. Sometimes finances and life just intervene… Still, it sucks.

Post # 15
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I know I’m going to have trouble with this. I can get pretty sensitive w.r.t. any sort of rejection. Also, it feels like one puts SO much effort into making the guest list (at least we are, it’s such a task obsessing over who to invite and not), and then somebody just going “mm, nah.” I know that’s not always or usually the case, but I know I’m going to take it that way.


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