Post # 1
And now that I’m actually paying attention to the way things are done, I don’t want to be one of those, but it’s so hard.
The invite has come (4 months before the wedding-nothing wrong with that, right?)But it is addressed to ONLY my Fiance, when we are both mutual friends with the couple.
We open the invite, and their wedding is on a (non holiday) Friday afternoon at 2pm. Meaning work will need to be taken off. (We know from looking at venues that having a wedding at this place on a Friday knocks 20% off the room rental.. now is this enough of a discount to ask your guests ask to take off work, I don’t know.) The confusing part is the “number of guests” line on the RSVP card… so does this mean I’m invited as the guest? I thought etiquette states that you address the invite to the established couple? (As a bride, “number of guests ____” on the response card would scare the hell out of me! Guests?)
The actual invite is short and sweet, no complaints. The envelope for the RSVP card however, has no postage. Is this normal? I can’t ever remember getting one without a stamp attached. My Fiance and I are actually going to request people RSVP via our website, to save postage and to get people to actually GO to our website.
Also in the invite was a loose piece of printer paper with directions and a note at the bottom stating “we are registered at …” Highlighted
And since I’m telling stories of “now that I’m a bride” …
We received a thank you post card last month from a wedding we went to 10 months ago—a post card with a wedding picture and “thank you” written in sharpie next to their heads. They didn’t even write on the back, just stuck an address label on… tell me why that took 10 months? Gahhh. You’re so very welcome for your $85 kitchen canisters.
More brides need this site!!
Post # 3
Well if you are both friends with the couple it should have been addressed to the both you. However some of my Fiance friends we are inviting have girlfriends we don’t really know that well and they don’t live together or anything so we just addressed it to the friend. Of course we don’t mind if they bring them though. 4 months is a little early but maybe they have some out of town guests and were trying to give them enough time to save and make arrangments and since they are having it on a friday they know most people will need to request the day off so they are trying to give plenty of time.
I would assume you are invited. Maybe you could call and say “hey! we got your invitation and I just wanted to double check that it was ok if (insert Fiance name) brought me along? I understand how expensive weddings can be so I was just making sure an extra person was ok.” That way you know.
I have got one RSVP card that didn’t have a stamp. Honestly I thought it was super weird, I don’t think I even sent it back, just told my friend we were coming. I guess that is a personal decision for each couple but I wouln’t think you would get back hardley and responses without the stamp.
We did put registrey info in our invites. I know they say that isn’t proper but almost EVERY invite I have recieved has it. I don’t know about highlighting it though, that seems like they are trying to make you notice to only buy gifts off that registrey.
I would be pissed if I got that Thank you card!! You take time out of your life and buy an expensive gift to get a postcard??? One thing I look forward to after attending the wedding is the the thank you card. I think it is extremley rude and they should be hand written and send out within a resonable time frame..NOT 10 MONTHS!!
So there is my two cents on that 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Do you and Fiance live together? If not, maybe you’re getting one mailed separately? (But considering that you received highlighted registry info, doubt the bride’s really into etiquette.)
Fiance should call them to confirm you’re invited.
I guess it’s better to get a late thank you, than none? I can see taking a little longer since they used a wedding photo, but 10 months? Shaking my head. I don’t see why thank yous are so hard- do 3 a day, and even with 300 guests, you’d be done in 3 months!
Post # 5
@Megan2035: Well thank you! I felt kinda bad writing this stuff.. but my Fiance didn’t understand my gasps and comments on it all so I had to throw it out to the bees who I thought would understand!
I’m thinking of putting our registry on our website, but I’m undecided.
Post # 6
@rebwana: We’ve lived together since before they were even a couple. haha
I’ll make him do that since it was HIS name on the invite.
Yes I agree, better late… but without any effort at all it left me thinking “why bother”
I’m wanting to do thank you post cards because I think they’re cute, but I will be adding a personal note on each and every single one of them.
Post # 7
@laneylaney: I see nothing wrong with putting it on your website… in fact, that’s what the website is for, maps, directions, registry info etc… all the things that either shouldnt be on an invite, or would make it too bulky.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
That invitation is making me cringe from afar.