(Closed) Got my first wedding invite since I’ve been engaged

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well if you are both friends with the couple it should have been addressed to the both you. However some of my Fiance friends we are inviting have girlfriends we don’t really know that well and they don’t live together or anything so we just addressed it to the friend. Of course we don’t mind if they bring them though. 4 months is a little early but maybe they have some out of town guests and were trying to give them enough time to save and make arrangments and since they are having it on a friday they know most people will need to request the day off so they are trying to give plenty of time.

I would assume you are invited. Maybe you could call and say “hey! we got your invitation and I just wanted to double check that it was ok if (insert Fiance name) brought me along? I understand how expensive weddings can be so I was just making sure an extra person was ok.” That way you know.

I have got one RSVP card that didn’t have a stamp. Honestly I thought it was super weird, I don’t think I even sent it back, just told my friend we were coming. I guess that is a personal decision for each couple but I wouln’t think you would get back hardley and responses without the stamp.

We did put registrey info in our invites. I know they say that isn’t proper but almost EVERY invite I have recieved has it. I don’t know about highlighting it though, that seems like they are trying to make you notice to only buy gifts off that registrey.

I would be pissed if I got that Thank you card!! You take time out of your life and buy an expensive gift to get a postcard??? One thing I look forward to after attending the wedding is the the thank you card. I think it is extremley rude and they should be hand written and send out within a resonable time frame..NOT 10 MONTHS!!

So there is my two cents on that 🙂

Post # 4
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Do you and Fiance live together? If not, maybe you’re getting one mailed separately? (But considering that you received highlighted registry info, doubt the bride’s really into etiquette.) 

Fiance should call them to confirm you’re invited.

I guess it’s better to get a late thank you, than none? I can see taking a little longer since they used a wedding photo, but 10 months? Shaking my head. I don’t see why thank yous are so hard- do 3 a day, and even with 300 guests, you’d be done in 3 months!

Post # 7
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@laneylaney:  I see nothing wrong with putting it on your website… in fact, that’s what the website is for, maps, directions, registry info etc… all the things that either shouldnt be on an invite, or would make it too bulky.

Post # 8
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7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

That invitation is making me cringe from afar.

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