(Closed) Got my first “you’re too young”

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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1213 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m lucky most people have been supportive, but some seem to have the attitude that they are just humoring us. It drives me nuts. People need to mind their own businesses. Its not our fault we found our partners at a young age!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You can’t please everyone all of the time.  I sowed my seeds. I traveled the world. I lived my 20s like a vagabond gone wild.  When I hit 30, I got, “When are you going to settle down?”  Really?  I’m too busy being me!!!  I’m 34 now, and my FH is 41, and we’ve both gotten, “It’s about time!”  As long as you’re happy, your SO’s happy and you’re both happy together – keep doing what makes you happy!

Congratulations!

Post # 5
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Someone said I was a ‘child’ bride the other day. Granted, I was not wearing any makeup, at the pool about to go swimming wearing shorts and flipflops but still I’m 28!

People do actually do a double take when they see my rings. I think I look younger than I am before you get up close and see my gray hair and wrinkles.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@VagabondGurl: I agree, you can’t win! People get ‘you’re too young!’ then suddenly reach some invisible turning point and people say ‘So when are you going to settle down?’. So you may as well stick with what works for you. 🙂

Post # 7
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I hate the your so young line! Nobody in my family has said anything as a lot of them use to harass us about when we were going to get married lol but it’s random people like waiting for my coffee, or grocery shopping, getting my nails done when I get told that line the most, by complete strangers, and I feel like being like excuse me do you even know my name? No you don’t, you don’t know me so hold your negative opinions to yourself, especially cause I don’t see a ring on most of their fingers!

Post # 8
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had some random guy at a frozen yogurt place look at my ring, ask if I was engaged, and then told me I was too young to get married. WTF?! First off, he had no idea how old I was. Sencondly, did he think that I really cared what he thought? Haha, some people…

Post # 10
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve seen other posts like this before and i just dont get why sooo many people care how old we are? How old are you if you dont mind me asking? I would assume about 24 if you graduated and havnt lived at home for 6 years. WHO sets the standard to say thats too young to get married?? I guess this turned into a little vent lol I’m 21(will be 22 when married) been with Fiance for 4 1/2 years, and graduating soon… who says thats not a good time to settle down? Needless to say.. I dont think your too young!

 

@jedeve: My sister is 27 and was a little bummed i was gettin married first too… ehhh. it happens.

Post # 11
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@jedeve: i’ll have just turned 27 when i get married. i look like im 19. i’ve had so many people tell me ‘i should finish college before i get married’. people think my fiance is like, 24.

i love the looks on their faces when i tell them i graduated with my masters degree in 2007 haha.

 

Post # 12
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962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@jedeve & @jJessicaL – Sisters will be jealous regardless of what’s going on.  My sister is 13 years older than me… she married at 21, got pregnant just a few months later, divorced, remarried at 23, had 2 more kids within as many years and basically spent her 20s and 30s struggling as a single parent and working her way through college.  She’s now a young 47, great career, her kids are adults and out of the house and she’s really just beginning to live the life I lived in my 20s – carefree!  She was ALWAYS jealous of me in my 20s.  Now that she’s living my old life and I’m settling down to begin a family (eventually!) the tables have completely turned and she’s still jealous!  Gah!  Some sisters are just going to be like that always.  I love her anyway…  she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor – wouldn’t have it any other way!

Post # 13
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4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I had one person tell me I was too young… I don’t know how old he thought I was, but since he was 25, probably assumed I was, too. Don’t take these people seriously… they are *always* talking about themselves more than about you.

Post # 14
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m 19 and my FH is 23. I would agree that I am pretty young. I expect to get comments like this. However, I think I’m in a different situation – and I think it differs with each person/couple. I’m working and going to school. I have a savings account that is just for the wedding/future expenses. I’m really good with my money.

My FH is really good with his money, too – not to mention he is working with insurance so he is going to have a really steady job and great income by the time we decide to get married, which will probably be late next year.

However, my friend is 21, just got married, is going to school for nursing, and has never had a job in her life. That, I would say, isn’t “too young”, but it’s too inexperienced, I would think. She’s also never dated anyone besides her husband except one guy for 10 months.

Now, I hope they work out, but the point is, I really think that unless you’re my age or younger getting MARRIED, you’re not too young, it justdepends on the maturity level. A lot of 28 year olds aren’t mature enough for marriage, but most are. Most 19-year olds aren’t mature enough for marriage, but there are some that are!

Post # 15
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My brother married before me at 22 i’m going to get married when i’m 26 next May he will be 39.  But I get the too young looks I still get ID for lotto tickets.  It’s so funny i’m like sure then they look and go oh wow I’m sorry.  I just laugh it off lol.  But hey it’s you not them it don’t matter what others think.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I never get that. Frown  I wish I did bc that would mean I am still young.  Smile

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