- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hello! I’m sure other women have posted about this exact topic. But here goes…
My boyfriend and I have been close friends for the last 10 – 11 years.. We officially started dating in March 2012… A month into the relationship, he was talking rings, wedding date, what kind of wedding he’d want, asking me what I’d want our colors to be, who would be in our wedding party.. Everything. He liked talking about it and would often bring it up himself.. About a month later, he bought a ring. He said that he would like to get married in the Fall so roughly October 2013 (the month that I really want to be married).
So… It’s October 2012, no proposal. I have stopped bringing it up and have even stopped looking at or thinking about wedding stuff on my own. I asked him why his excitement has died down and he said he thinks we should be sure we’re not making a mistake, which is responsible, but it’s so frustrating!! It was his idea from the beginning! And now I feel stupid for “planning” things and sometimes he brings it up but now it seems like he’s talking about it just so I won’t be upset. We talked about moving in together once we were engaged.. My lease is up in May and if we aren’t engaged by then, I’ll be renewing my lease for another year. I just can’t really tell where we stand or if he’s changed his mind.
I guess I’m just venting. But anyone else going through this or have gone through this? I’m so confused and I feel ridiculous for expecting it to actually happen.