(Closed) Got my photos – advice on the lovely and less lovely guests

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsWoW:  Oh man, that is a bummer. I have seen the same thing happen enough times that I’ve debating whether or not it would be rude to bring it up with our own photographer before our wedding. I thought maybe with only 70 people or so it wouldn’t be an issue — but you had half that and noticed the same thing!

Post # 4
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Balboa:  considering that it’s your day and you’ll be paying a lot of money, it would be ridiculous for the photographer to think you’re out of line to ask. 

Thanks for the heads-up, OP. 

Post # 5
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsWoW:  I’m so sorry!  That seems horribly unprofessional of your photographer! I’d planned on speaking to my photographer about photographing certain guests more and less based on how close I was to them and this clinches it!   Thank you for the warning and again, I’m so sorry your photographer did this!

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would both mention to your photographer who is particularly important to get photos of, AND tell those guests that you’ve asked the photog to take some candid photos of them. I am trying to get into the photography business and I’ve been second-shooting for about a year now. As a second-shooter, I spend a lot of time doing the candid guest photos and I can tell you that those people you’d classify as “less glamorous” generally cringe when they see me pointing a camera at them. I do TRY to take photos of everyone but when it is clear that I’m making someone uncomfortable pointing a camera at them I tend to walk away because I don’t want to ruin anyone’s good time. 

Post # 7
621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsWoW:  Oh yikes! Yes I think it’s ok to to talk to your photographer about this, but also understand that those who are more self-conscious are generally more camera aware and avoidant. I know when I’m shooting and someone doesn’t want me to take their photo they turn their back to me very quickly or shoo me away or make an awful face and I’m not going to include those images in the ones I deliver. This happens a lot with middle aged women, some middle aged men, and most overweight women. 9 times out of 10 it’s not the photographer actively ignoring those guests, it’s their avoidant behavior. I notice a lot of people at weddings who intentionally try to hang out behind me so they don’t even end up in the background of photos. Ultimately if someone doesn’t want to be photographed I’m not going to force it, I’m going to concentrate my efforts on the people who are going to appear more natural in front of the camera, no matter their size or age.

Post # 8
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Something similar happened at my brother’s wedding.There are so many pictures of the flower girl dancing, and while she was cute , she seemed to get the most attention!

Post # 9
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

The ones with big laughs got lots of photos too. Just be sure to tell your photogs you want photos of your grandparents at least, for sure…

Post # 12
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That sucks. 🙁 And a good tip for those yet to have their weddings.

Post # 13
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A very good piece of advice.  I have a feeling that I will get an album of my 4 year old daughter, because she is the cutest thing ever.  lol

Post # 14
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

My Mother-In-Law went to a wedding where the second shooter took a picture of every person as they walked into the ceremony.  I can’t imagine being able to spare the second shooter for that amount of time, but it’s a great idea!

Post # 15
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

im having a family friend take our wedding photos, and i am asking a close friend that didnt make the bridal party to take pictures of the guests as they arrive, and while they are seated in the chapel so i will have pics of everyone who attended. Im creating a scrapbook and i want tons of photos.

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