Post # 1
I got my full set of photos this week and while I love them, I noticed an oddity that you may want to mention to your photographer: there are a LOT of photos of the young and gorgeous guests (whether or not those people were very important to me) and hardly any of the size-challenged or less glamorous. So I have 10 pictures of my cousin’s 16 year old blonde daughter but one bad, peripheral shot of my 400-lb plus BFF and the same of my new sister-in-law! This in a wedding of only 35 people. I think part is not the photog’s fault as some people are highly camera shy, but I wish I had specifically said to the photographer to get pics of the camera-shy sneakily – or at least said “i love all my friends equally, please don’t necessarily only take pictures of the prettiest.”
Post # 3
@MrsWoW: Oh man, that is a bummer. I have seen the same thing happen enough times that I’ve debating whether or not it would be rude to bring it up with our own photographer before our wedding. I thought maybe with only 70 people or so it wouldn’t be an issue — but you had half that and noticed the same thing!
Post # 4
@Balboa: considering that it’s your day and you’ll be paying a lot of money, it would be ridiculous for the photographer to think you’re out of line to ask.
Thanks for the heads-up, OP.
Post # 5
@MrsWoW: I’m so sorry! That seems horribly unprofessional of your photographer! I’d planned on speaking to my photographer about photographing certain guests more and less based on how close I was to them and this clinches it! Thank you for the warning and again, I’m so sorry your photographer did this!
Post # 6
I would both mention to your photographer who is particularly important to get photos of, AND tell those guests that you’ve asked the photog to take some candid photos of them. I am trying to get into the photography business and I’ve been second-shooting for about a year now. As a second-shooter, I spend a lot of time doing the candid guest photos and I can tell you that those people you’d classify as “less glamorous” generally cringe when they see me pointing a camera at them. I do TRY to take photos of everyone but when it is clear that I’m making someone uncomfortable pointing a camera at them I tend to walk away because I don’t want to ruin anyone’s good time.
Post # 7
@MrsWoW: Oh yikes! Yes I think it’s ok to to talk to your photographer about this, but also understand that those who are more self-conscious are generally more camera aware and avoidant. I know when I’m shooting and someone doesn’t want me to take their photo they turn their back to me very quickly or shoo me away or make an awful face and I’m not going to include those images in the ones I deliver. This happens a lot with middle aged women, some middle aged men, and most overweight women. 9 times out of 10 it’s not the photographer actively ignoring those guests, it’s their avoidant behavior. I notice a lot of people at weddings who intentionally try to hang out behind me so they don’t even end up in the background of photos. Ultimately if someone doesn’t want to be photographed I’m not going to force it, I’m going to concentrate my efforts on the people who are going to appear more natural in front of the camera, no matter their size or age.
Post # 8
Something similar happened at my brother’s wedding.There are so many pictures of the flower girl dancing, and while she was cute , she seemed to get the most attention!
Post # 9
The ones with big laughs got lots of photos too. Just be sure to tell your photogs you want photos of your grandparents at least, for sure…
Post # 10
@mariematt: Yes I’m sure that was a major factor here – my BFF was not open to having her pictures taken I’m sure. It breaks my heart because not only is she lovely in spirit, she is actually lovely in person too, with gorgeous eyes, a great complexion, etc. I wish the “camera shy” realized how attractive they are to those who love them. So yes, my advice would be to actively seek these folks out and say “it would mean so much to me to have some pictures of you” – but in the flurry of the day, I guess I just thought that 800 pictures of 35 people would have gotten everyone!
Post # 11
@kerensa: LOL yes I have about 50 of my 6-year-old flower girl too – she is darn cute but :/
Post # 12
That sucks. 🙁 And a good tip for those yet to have their weddings.
Post # 13
A very good piece of advice. I have a feeling that I will get an album of my 4 year old daughter, because she is the cutest thing ever. lol
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
My Mother-In-Law went to a wedding where the second shooter took a picture of every person as they walked into the ceremony. I can’t imagine being able to spare the second shooter for that amount of time, but it’s a great idea!
Post # 15
im having a family friend take our wedding photos, and i am asking a close friend that didnt make the bridal party to take pictures of the guests as they arrive, and while they are seated in the chapel so i will have pics of everyone who attended. Im creating a scrapbook and i want tons of photos.