(Closed) Got my ring reset and I hate it, feeling very guilty, what now?

posted 4 months ago in Rings
Post # 46
2645 posts
Sugar bee

Sorry, but it reads costume cocktail to me.

Post # 47
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

theweddingunplanner :  I see what you mean about proportions.  I feel that a halo should accentuate a center stone, but the double halo completely overpowers your beautiful pear.  When I look at the new ring my eye is drawn to the halo first and it does make the pear seem smaller. 

Honestly I think your original ring is stunning.  If you are able to remake it to something similar without too much cost, I would do it.

Post # 48
134 posts
Blushing bee

 I think that the new ring is a vast improvement. It’s so much more original looking than the first ring, in my opinion. AND, the jeweler did an amazing job. Try to give yourself some time to get use to it. Let the new size sink in. I would wear it proudly. And, I personally do not think it looks like a cocktail ring. Once you add a wedding band to it, it will certainly look like a wedding set. I hope you grow to love it and keep it, if not….send it my way 😉

Post # 50
14899 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d put it back in the original setting and set the double halo with a colored gemstone if you can’t get anything back for it.   Sorry, but i think it really swallows your diamond and make it look a lot smaller. 

Post # 51
1116 posts
Bumble bee

Would it be possible to remove your stone and try to sell the setting on Loupe Troupe, ebay, Diamond Bistro and see if you can recoup some of the costs….or maybe save it and put a moissanite or lab stone and save it for special occassions?  This is probably not the best option but since so many of us have been ordering rings from the Chinese companies, Starsgem is now doing lab diamonds. You could probably get the ring you wanted with lab diamonds and gold or platinum made for your center stone for $500 or $600.  We can help you with the CAD process so you get a quality ring.  

For those of us that love rings, we have all been there.  I did my first ring with a u-prong halo and it was cutting my fingers up by having so much exposed metal and diamonds in the shank.  I lasted a whole 3 months, ate the cost and redid the whole thing. I just couldn’t live with it and it wasn’t going to grow on me….

Post # 53
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

As with others, I like the original. You have to speak up and tell your fiancee. As my fiancee said “he didn’t want to start our marriage with me not liking my engagement ring.” We ended up going through two rings before we found the third and final ring. I still feel guilty about the money we lost but he says it was worth it to see me smile when I look at my ring. 

Post # 54
4486 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

theweddingunplanner :  if you know the measurements of your pear, you might be able to buy a semi mount you like or even a whole ring with a similar sized pear in it and do a swap out. It would be a cheaper option rather than going custom again.

I purchased an emerald shaped aquamarine halo from lord of the gems for my 30th and I wear it every couple of days and the setting has held up beautifully after five years wear. My diamond pave wedding band was from them too. Ive not had a diamond fall out and I wear it 24/7. My point is that lots of more economically priced jewelery sellers  like lord of the gems exist out there and you might be able to find a semi mount you like or an existing ring to do a stone swap with. Look into it as an option. You might not feel quite so guilty because this will be a cheaper fix than going custom again. 

Post # 55
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

The double halo actually makes your center stone look smaller from my perspective.  I say go back to your oringinal ring it looks classic and big. 

Post # 56
196 posts
Blushing bee

I think you should see about going back to a single halo, and putting a nice lab sapphire or moissanite in the double halo and use it as a “special occasion ring”

Post # 57
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

 From your response to the other bees’ comments, the impression I have is that you want to like your new rain, but in truth you don’t. You seem to be clinging to any compliment to try and make yourself feel better. Unfortunately, that’s short lived. I say go with your gut and have your ring changed again. Life is too short to waste happiness over a material object that was meant to enhance that happiness.

Post # 58
40 posts

With the double halo, it went from an engagement ring to a cocktail ring. Need to see it with the band. 

Post # 59
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

I’m not super into halos, but the original ring looks much better than the new setting.  Your center stone seems completely lost in the double halo and it just looks over the top.  Not that there is anything wrong with over the top, but personally that is just not my style.  I’m afraid that it reads cocktail ring.

Post # 60
72 posts
Worker bee

I’m in the minority here, but I love that double halo around your pear! The halo looks amazingly done- looks aligned perfectly and the diamonds I think enhance the color of your pear more than the first setting. In the first setting I almost couldn’t tell where the pear started and halo began. But in the second one it looks like this dainty pear nestled in basket of sparkly diamonds. I love it! To me it looks extravagant. And expensive. And beautiful. Not costumey.

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