Post # 1
Let me preface this by saying I am dumb for getting myself in this situation but here goes:
When I started wedding dress shopping, I brought my Future Mother-In-Law. It was fun, but she told Fiance a ton of details about a dress I seriously considered – its beaded sash, price, etc. She’s done this type of thing before, so I was annoyed and decided it was better to just shop with my mom alone, as I knew there was a strong likelihood that she’d tell lots of family/friends/my Fiance exactly what my dress looked like, and it’s important to me to keep it a surprise.
She kept asking when we were going shopping again and I lied and told her I was holding off on it for awhile b/c I didn’t want to confront her about why she wasn’t invited anymore. I bought a dress this past May and never told her.
Now it’s September, and my wedding’s in June and she keeps calling me and telling me she’s worried that I don’t have one yet. I keep evading the question and saying I know the one I want, I just haven’t ordered it yet.
Okay so I handled this kind of ridiculously lol but any ideas how to fix? Should I just pretend like I just got one this weekend, or come clean, or something else?
Post # 3
Just tell her, “Hey, I ordered the dress, but I want everyone to be surprised, so I’m keeping it under wraps.”
And if your wedding is in June 2012, “ordering” now is plenty of time.
Post # 4
@Seaside: I would just say ‘oh I ordered that one I wanted’ because technically that’s true. If she asks when you ordered it I’d come clean though, don’t lie about, that never gets people anywhere! Congrats on ordering your dress btw <3
Post # 5
I agree… just go the “ordering” route… if she asks to see it just tell her that you are keeping it a secret from everyone!
Post # 6
You could say you found a perfect unworn dress online and just ordered it… price was right, couldn’t wait in case it got snatched up, etc….
Post # 7
You could always say you were out with your Mom and saw a bridal shop so you popped in to browse and found “the one” and ordered it. I also like what someone else said about wanting to keep it a surprise.
Post # 8
I agree that you should just mention that you ordered it. It might help if you bring up the subject instead of waiting for her to so that she doesn’t feel like you never would have told her (even though that’s kind of the case, lol). While I agree coming clean is the right thing to do and lying would be a little risky, I probably wouldn’t have the nerve if we’re being honest.
Definitely say somehing soon though, so it still makes sense for you to be ordering it – and so you don’t have to stress about this anymore!
Post # 9
I agree–Just tell her that in the end, you wanted to keep the dress as a surprise and ordered it without showing anyone else–wait. is that true? haha