(Closed) Got no1 to talk to about this

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This is emotional abuse and you shouldn’t have to live with it.

Has it always been like this? Have you talked to him about it? Have you thought about going to counseling together? 

Post # 4
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Uh oh! I’m sorry you are going through this! I can’t help but think how used and abused you feel! Talk to him and try to reason things out. If that doesn’t help, just REMEMBER that YOU have OPTIONS. 

Post # 6
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Please at least consider leaving, you deserve to be in a healthy relationship, this is emotional abuse!

Post # 8
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Grove:  Well all I can say is, take it one day at a time! Hope that option is leaving and not going ape shit crazy on him! : ) 

Post # 9
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Do you have friends or family you can stay with?  If he refuses to treat you as an equal, you should leave.  I know that’s easier said than done.

Post # 10
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Have you thought about talking to your local women’s shelter? That have a lot of rescources avalible for people in your position. 

Post # 13
1716 posts
Bumble bee

Is no one going to call this what it is? This isn’t just “emotional abuse”. That is flat out rape. He is forcing you to have sex with him when you have not consented to it. That is the definition of rape.

Call the police.


Post # 14
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@HelleCat:  Yep, what this woman is describing is rape. OP, have you ever used that word when talking to your husband about what he is doing and how it makes you feel? Sometimes calling it what it is can be a powerful thing. And I agree with other posters that you should seek councelling and/or check out a local women’s shelter. I know you’re probably thinking that women’s shelters are for people in really tough spots (like homeless or just out of jail etc) but they are for everyone, and they will be happy to help you, either through councelling or support group. And they will be able to give you basic legal advice about your situation.


I’m so sorry you are going through this, you don’t deserve to be treated like that. 🙁

Post # 15
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

HelleCat   I was about to say the same thing.

Get out, Get out now.

Post # 16
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

It is rape and he is also her husband, so there is a fine line here, yes, a very fine line. It is hard to prove in court because he is her husband. Calling the police is not the answer, a women’s shelter is, bring your kids with you and do it quickly when he is not there. If you don’t drive, ask the shelter to come get you when he at work. DO NOT leave it in front of him…. I HAVE BEEN THERE! 

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