(Closed) Got the proof. Could use some help…

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
690 posts
Busy bee

I think your mom is technically ‘right’ about the Mr & Mrs thing – but honestly, I did the exact same thing as you.  It was important to MY mom that her name be listed, and not just my dad’s first name.  So I did it, no big deal.  From the looks of your invitation, your mom is having her full name listed either way – so maybe she should try to understand that your FI’s mom would also want her full name listed?

I agree that you should include the comma.

Post # 4
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I think that it looks fantastic! ๐Ÿ™‚

The only thing that looks different to what I’m used to is seeing it written as ‘the seventh DAY’ – I’m just used to seeing it without ‘day’ in it, it sounds super important! 

Beautiful!

Post # 5
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318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This English major thinks that you should have the comma ๐Ÿ™‚  And it’s unusual, but there’s nothing “wrong” with including FI’s mother.  Everything else looks good!

Post # 6
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know nothing, but what about Mr Dad’s name & Mrs. Mom’s name Lastname? or is that too weird/bigger faux pas?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

To me it looks odd that both of his parents are listed, and only your dad’s name is listed. It could just be my weird need for symmetry, but it seems a little unequal. I’m totally with his mom on wanting her name on there. She exists, too–and she’s more than just a “Mrs.!”

Post # 8
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@bebefly: I think they have different last names?

I agree with you about the comma! looks great besides!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with the comma – when it’s worded as you have it I think it’s appropriate, but may not be necessary because of the spacing/fonts. 

The ‘day’ does stick out a little to me, but I don’t necessarily think it’s ‘wrong’.

And if Fiance wants his mom’s name on it then go with it as is. 

And it is *SO* strange to see Lake George in print ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Love them!  The fonts are great and you’ve got a beautiful name!

ETA: mine are worded slightly differently but there are no commas – looking back in my messages I didn’t use it because of how it looked.

Post # 10
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2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you’re being a 100% total stickler for etiquette ,then yes, the man’s name always remains with his last name so it would read Mr. W E and Mrs. W E, but that just looks weird, and it looks even weirder to leave her off! I think it looks fine the way it is; nobody will read it and say, “Oh, wow, W’s name should have been with his last name!!” 

Post # 11
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1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

To me, the comma is optional. Technically you’re correct to add it, but because of the way the invitation is typeset, there’s already a natural pause as you read it. Flip a coin. ๐Ÿ™‚

Your mom is correct that “Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe” is not “proper.” Unfortunately, there is no proper way to include the wife’s first name when they both have the same last name. That is just ridiculous to me, so your solution seems the best way to do so.

Have you considered asking his mom what she prefers? I was surprised that some of my younger married girlfriends actually like to receive invitations addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe” — maybe your Future Mother-In-Law feels the same about the invitation?

Post # 11
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2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The English major in me also thinks the comma should be there, although it may look out of place. It just reads better that way.

Also another note (which is totally personal preference):

Two Thousand And Eleven sounds so funny/off to me. It all depends on how you say it in normal conversation, I guess. Do you say October seventh two thousand and eleven if someone asks you the date? I say October seventh two thousand eleven. It just sounded funny to me, but if that’s the way you say it, there’s nothing wrong with it at all!

 

EDIT: Okay, this could totally because I’m all hopped up on Benadryl right now, but I think the entire wording with the parents sounds wrong.  It seems like you’re saying together with your parent’s parents by the way it’s listed. If you don’t list the parents, it would usually read “Together with their parents, Bride & Groom Invite You… ” The way you have it sounds like Together with THEIR parents (implying the next people you list’s parents..,)

Would you consider having your names first? Say:

Caitlyn Marae &

Hubby To Be

Together with their parents,

So & So Parent

&

So & So Parent

Invite You…

 

??? Anyone else see this ???

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@UpstateCait:  Hey there!  Looks pretty good, girl!  I think you can do whatever you’d like in terms of the parents names.  I would definitely add the comma.  Would you consider saying, “Saturday, the Seventh of October”?  I don’t think “day”is necessary.  Also, what about saying “Half Past Five O’Clock”?  It makes it more formal and 5:30 (to me) is considered evening. 

P.S. To keep it formal, I would say “Two Thousand And Eleven”

Post # 13
Member
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that the Mr. should go first and I don’t think the comma is needed since the different font starts on the next paragraph if that makes sense. I think the rest of it is great .

EDIT: Is 5:30 the afternoon or the evening?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

if it can still easily be changed, i think adding the comma would be good, but i really don’t think any guests will notice. one thing i would suggest, dropping ‘and’ within the year. otherwise, they look great!

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