Post # 1
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Helper bee
Our engagement announcement ran in the paper yesterday! That was exciting! Then came the congrats on facebook from people…. and the requests for invites. Three of them! Luckily I have the per person cost down low enough that I can say the more the merrier, but it happened to be the day I was finishing addressing invitations and I’m down to my last two! Grrr! I guess those facebook people are gonna have to be okay with e-vites or something. I thought I’d gotten by without those crazy people that everybody talks about on here. Oh well!
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Wow, that’s really generous of you to invite those people anyways! I think an e-vite would be more than sufficient 🙂 Although I really wanted an engagement announcement in the paper, that’s one of the reasons why I steered clear!
Post # 4
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Honey bee
Yikes! I would be really annoyed, actually, if people tried to invite themselves to our wedding. We want it super small and there’s just no way to make that happen!
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I can’t imagine asking someone for an invite.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I completely avoid putting anything wedding related on facebook!!! They can see the pics AFTER lol
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Yea i would never ask to be invited… thats just so weird to me!
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I so don’t understand people who fish for invites.
Post # 9
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Worker bee
Well that was presumptuous of them. Personally, I’d be offended if I got an e-vite. If you’re considering inviting them, maybe you can print out one of the free wedding invitation templates online and mail them to the extra guests. They’ll never know that they didn’t receive one of the originals.
Post # 10
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Newbee
Eeeek. I feel like you shouldn’t invite people if they weren’t originally on the guest list. Throughout this whole thing, our guest list gets bigger and bigger and I would find it very rude for someone to assume they are invited. You obviously had listed everyone that was important to be there in the first place… you shouldn’t feel obligated to add more.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
That is very generous of you and a bit rude on their part. You don’t really *invite* yourself to a wedding.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Do you have to invite them?
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
You are very nice to invite them anyway! And I hope they aren’t asking for an invite on your wall but actually writing you a private message.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I actually have been really careful to not post much wedding stuff on facebook. The wall posts came after the engagement announcement ran in the paper on Sunday. My mom works at the paper, so I just always assumed I’ve have an announcement and never really thought about not having one. The invite requests came from two of my fiance’s friends and the mom of a friend of mine. Fiance said not to worry about his friends, we dont have to invite them. I did think it was pretty rude of that mom though, but she’s a fun lady who will know a lot of people there and we have the space, so I’m not gonna say no. I bought 100 invites in October when I thought we’d need about 80 and its turned out to be 102, so yeah, there’s been some pretty significant guest list creep, but hopefully this will be the end of it! I think I will probably print out some extra invites this week. Guess it will be bad to send e-vites out to only a few people, they’d be able to tell.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Ooooh, we had some of these right when we got engaged, and still encounter them once and a while. Some of my favorites:
“Am I going to be invited to your wedding?”
and
“I BETTER be invited to your wedding!!”
Seriously? I can’t wait for these people to get married 😉
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@Pom Pom: So did we! My favorites were the “Well, I can’t wait for the big day!” like they were going to be there or something!
We had one couple that neither of us can particularly stand and the wife was one of 8 shower hostesses for one of my showers. She was one that didn’t even put much work into the shower and we had to invite her. For shame. 🙁