- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I think my problem is that the parents I speak of just come across as manipulative. We contact the parents to set up meetings, and give them multiple times that are available, and have them pick the one that works best for them. One of the parents said a particular time in the afternoon for this last meeting would be best. Then a week later, calls the special ed director to complain about how we always set these meetings up in the afternoon when the working spouse has to be at work 30 mins later.. despite giving before school times, on different days of the week, in addition to times throughout the day. THEY are the ones that pick it, then go above our heads & complain to the director about the time that THEY picked. If morning worked best for them, they had more than one opportunity for that. Every staff member is meticulous about their documentation with this family because the parents are always trying to pull something, that’s why I have a problem with it.
The homework does not get done at home, and the kids come to school without so much as their faced being washed. I understand where you’re coming from, kids get snotty noses from spreading germs in close quarters, but I don’t think it’s so much to ask when both parents are at home in the morning, and the kids’ faces don’t get washed before school.
One of the kids has some sensory issues & we were doing something each morning that helped kind of calm/relax him before his day started, and it ultimately helped with his attentional issues (he has serious trouble focusing). His parents wanted to do away with it. They don’t want to put him on medication for the attention, which I completely understand, but then they don’t want anything else helping him either? His teacher pretty much has to reduce his workload in half because it takes him so long to get started on anything & he gets distracted so easily. He can’t succeed in school without being able to focus. I just don’t understand it.
I’m not saying low income people should not have kids, either.. not at all. We have plenty of low income families in our district who are livin in the nearby trailer park, and the parents are great. They do what they can to help their kids succeed. They can’t always make sure their homework is completed correctly every night, but they make an effort. They are supportive of the intervention services their child is receiving & let their kids be involved in after school programs (transportation is provided) or the big brothers/big sisters program so their kids get those experiences. These other parents just want absolutely nothing to do with the school. We used to have a good relationship with them, but then they decided they didn’t want us giving the kids a change of clothes when their pants & socks were wet at school from the snow, and didn’t want any of our help in getting their kids where they need to be academically.