(Closed) Graceful way to reduce wedding party?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, are the people in your wedding party close friends, in addition to your family? I get that you have family and having JUST family makes sense….but I also don’t think there is a graceful way to say, “sorry, i take it back, you’re not in the wedding party” even though the wedding itself is only 50-60 attendants. I just don’t think there’s a way to do that without it leaving a bad taste in your mouth.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s a sticky situation, I assume a 10 person wedding party means five on your side, five on FI’s? It’s a larger party but not super huge. I think your non-relative friends would be kind of disappointed. My advice is to throw caution to the wind!!! Do your best to keep costs down for them, but don’t stress about it, when they said yes to your invitation they were also accepting some costs as well 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our wedding had ~56 people there including our wedding party which was 5 on each side and our Flower Dog and Ring Dog Escort, so i think it’s fine. It’s all about having the people close to you there.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

There is definitely no graceful way to do that and if you try you are going to end up with some really hurt feelings.  If you weren’t sure of details and such yet, you shouldn’t have been asking people in the first place but unfortunately, whats done is done.

If these are people who are close to you and your truely want standing with you, screw what other might think of have a ten person wedding party at a small wedding!  I don’t think you should ask any of them to step down.

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