Post # 1
So FI and I decided on 2015 for our wedding. Originally we were going to have it on our eight year anniversary — Saturday, September 19th. This date means a lot to us, and we would ideally like to keep it as our anniversary. However, FI is in a PhD program and will be both teaching and taking classes during that time. I may or may not also be in grad school. Using that date would mean basically having our wedding over a weekend and going back to class on Monday. (FI could take off on Friday but doesn’t feel comfortable missing Monday too.) This scenario is complicated by the fact that we’re living a few hours away from our families, and have been planning to have our wedding in his hometown, about 2 hours away. Bottom line, our wedding weekend is looking very hectic and stressful. We’d also obviously have to wait for our honeymoon, which we were thinking of doing over Christmas (and that’s fine with us).
The alternative I’ve come up with is using his spring break, which is in March. We’d probably have it on Sunday, the 15th, because his break starts on the 14th. Then we could have a week to honeymoon directly after the wedding. I like that it’s in the off season, which would make it less expensive, and I don’t love summer. I almost certainly wouldn’t be in grad school yet at this point, so I could theoretically take off work for that amount of time and possibly a few days before in order to prepare.
Could either of these scenarios be pulled off, or am I being hopelessly unrealistic about what I can do? If it’s doable, I’d like to keep my original plan of our anniversary, but if it’s impossible then we’re open to (if sad about) changing it. Would spring break work? Am I just doomed to be a peak season summer bride whether I like it or not? Alternatives? We really have to nail down a time of year so I know when we need to start planning seriously.
Post # 3
@Zesty: I attended a wedding a few years ago during October. The bride was one of my classmates from my PhD program. The groom was also enrolled in classes at the time. The wedding was actually about a 6-hour drive away from the town where we all went to school. It worked out just fine! They took the Thursday-Monday for the wedding and festivities and went right back to class. Their honeymoon was the following summer.
Likewise, I was MOH in a wedding where the bride was enrolled in an MA program. It was during October, as well. They actually just took Thursday-Sunday for the wedding festivities (which were about 3 hours from where they lived). They took their honeymoon over spring break, months later.
So, yes, a school-year wedding is doable. It’s not a walk in the park, in terms of stress, but both of those ladies are pleased that they chose the date they wanted, regardless of the school schedule.
Post # 4
@Zesty: I am in graduated school and our date was chosen so we could take the honeymoon over spring break! I think it is doable! Also the deals for a March wedding are fabulous
Post # 5
I work full time and am in grad school part time. We just got engaged and are planning a summer 2015 wedding. I am planning for August as that is the summer break and I am hoping fingers crossed that I will finish my program in July. I am scheduled to finish in Decemeber 2015 but if the courses are offered I can double up over the next year and hopefully finish in July, get married in August, honeymoon and then enjoy married life! If that doesn’t work with the course offerings then at least with an August wedding I’ll avoid school at the time.
I honestly think you can do both and it will be stressful but can be done! I think planning and being in school will be tougher then the actual wedding aspect which is why we are doing a long engagement.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone. I’m glad to know that it’s been done before. 🙂
Post # 7
A date is a date is a date. It’s special because it’s your wedding day – doesn’t have to be the dating anniversary. Do it on a date when you can enjoy it the most!!
Post # 8
We got married over a long weekend and went back to work the following Tuesday. Our honeymoon was a few months later and it was nice to have some time to settle in together before the trip. We would have slept through half of it if it was right after the wedding!