(Closed) Grad School + Pregnancy?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I personally did not have a baby in grad school but I am finishing up my M.S and EdS program in April and there are two girls that have young children. One just gave birth last January. It has been tough on them but they both have good support systems and babysitters for when they are in class/internship. It may take you a little bit longer to finish the program with a child but I definitely do not think it is unreasonable! If it is something that you want then I say go for it. Plenty of moms have gone to school and been sucessful while raising children πŸ™‚ Good luck to you in whatever decisions you make πŸ™‚ 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AmeliaBedelia: Not a ma my self, but there are TONS of law school classmates and friends that have had babies in school (not guy friends with their outside-of-school wives, but female classmates). One is having her 5th child and her husband is also a student at the U! It can be done, and IMO, while it’s stressful, you’ll theoretically have more down time to spend with the kiddo than if you were working a set hour job. You also usually have more flexibility in your schedule. 

I’d say roll with it if you guys are considering seriously TTC. It may be stressful, but I can’t really imagine having a baby and not being stressed a little πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know it can be done. It will be very stressful and while I don’t personally know how it feels to go through something like that I’ve heard of people being able to do it. If it’s something you feel you need/want to do it can be done! You are not over thinking your life, sweetheart, you are being smart and taking everything into consideration before bringing another life into this world. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

You know, it will be tough, but it can be done, and it can actually be really beneficial! DH’s uncle had his first child when he was in the midst of an incredibly grueling graduate program (coursework, teaching, taking on clients, etc.). Even though his life was crazy, he said having a baby then brought balance to his life. He couldn’t be totally consumed by his program because he had this little life that demanded attention, and he learned the importance of stepping away from his all-consuming work and enjoying all the other things that life has to offer. So I think that having a baby in grad school will be challenging and difficult, but it can also be an incredibly positive experience if you let it.

And if you decide to take this step now, know that I’m sending lots of baby juju your way. πŸ™‚ 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know a girl who had a baby in Medical School and is currently juggling clinicals and a baby. She’s doing a great job and I’m sure you’ll do a great job if you have a baby in graduate school.

Post # 11
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There are 7 girls who had babies last year at my law school…one gave birth to TWINS right after her finals. About 10% of the class has kids. It totally can be done.

 

Post # 13
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1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

A few fellow older grad students have kids in my program.  It seems really tough for them. I don’t think I could do it – but I’m basing it on our income situation.  We don’t make enough with my grad school pay being sooo low, and my fiancee’s pay being lower-ish, too.  

If you think you could do it financially with a graduate stipend (if you get one?) then go for it. You’ll make it work, life-balance-wise. 

Post # 14
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1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Like others have said, it can be done.  I’m in an M.Ed. and teaching credential program and one of my classmates has four young daughters.  For me (and mind you, I am NOT ready to have kids!) I can’t imagine having kids and going through this program.  I barely have time for myself!  My down time had dwindled to almost nothing.  That said, I’m sure there are ways you could prioritize your time (see, I apparently have time to be on Weddingbee right now) to make it work.  Just think about yourself and if you would want to do this.  Is there a way to wait until after you’re done with school?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My husband is in grad school with our first. It wasn’t planned, it just happened because he was out of work for so long. He enjoys it so far because he can be home with her for half the day and then goes to school. Money is tight, but I’m breastfeeding, we bought used cloth diapers, use cloth wipes, and will make our own baby food. It can be done.

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