(Closed) Grad school wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Getting Married While in School? Yay or Nay?



    It'll ruin your marriage

    It'll ruin your grades

  • Post # 2
    5081 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    So are you going to be long distance for 2 years while you are in school or is he moving with you? I think that will make a big difference. I, personally, would not want to get married while in a long distance situation, grad school or not.

    With that said, I’m finishing up my 4th year as a PhD student and I got married this past Christmas Break. I can’t say it has effected much of anything, but I’m also not taking classes anymore. I doubt it would have taken away from my classes if I was though, but really, nothing would prevent me from getting good grades, I’m a very driven student. If you are an easily distracted student, then planning a wedding could distract you from your studies. I don’t get any financial aid as a grad student anyway, aside from the option of student loans, so my financial aid was not effected. I say do what you want to do as long as you can afford it. Grad school isn’t that much different from having a real job as far as time and effort go, you just make less money (or no money, or pay money) to do it. 

    Post # 3
    1189 posts
    Bumble bee

    I wouldn’t do it. I’m in a grad program right now and very minimally planning our wedding (working on the fun stuff a bit) and it’s already a bit much. I can’t imagine full blown wedding planning during the madness of grad school. A girl in my program planned her wedding and had her wedding while in the program and she couldn’t wait for her wedding to be over for her to finally not have to worry about it anymore. She was beyond stressed and it seemed like she wasn’t having any fun with the whole process. I think her work suffered and she also couldn’t put all her energy into the wedding either. I’d say hold off. 

    Post # 4
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    First of all, congrats! Fellow OT here, you’ve picked an awesome career 🙂 I got engaged toward the end of my program and did the majority of planning during my full-time fieldwork, which was definitely manageable. One classmate of mine was engaged prior to beginning the program and got married during the 4 week summer break between Year 1 & 2, another got married during a 2-week break between fieldwork rotations. They were able to balance planning with schoolwork but are both very organized and driven people (aka not procrastinators). All of my classmates as well as myself that got engaged during the program planned our weddings for the year following graduation. Personally I would not rush into planning or stress about timing until A) you’re “officially” engaged and B) you start the program to see how much time you have to devote to planning. There’s nothing wrong with having a longer engagement, especially if you and your husband-to-be will not be living in the same city while you complete school. Good luck!

    Post # 5
    836 posts
    Busy bee

    I think if you were planning the wedding where you are going to school it could be do-able. But if you were trying to plan remotely it may be a bit more of a challenege. But you know what you are capable of! I hope you have a fun time and congratulations on the exciting things in store for you 🙂

    Post # 7
    2316 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Have fun!  Im sure you will enjoy doing the fun bridal things in your free time and leaving the stressful stuff to family.  You are so lucky Congrats!

    Post # 9
    7462 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Call me crazy, but I honestly didn’t find planning a wedding to be THAT hard unless you plan to DIY everything and have a lot of projects that need to be accomplished.

    I’m not in grad school, but I am a wedding photographer, who got married smack in the middle of my busy wedding season…..so definitely similar in that I have a packed calendar and limited free time. I can relate to having a short break. I had a wedding 2 weeks before mine, and 2 the weekend after.

    So much of wedding planning these days is done online – emailing vendors. Heck, even my contracts these days are all electronic. I work with a lot of people from out of town, and we skype or facetime for meetings because they’re too busy for an in person meeting. I think the amount of time spent online doing other things (facebook, the bee, etc) could just as easily be spent emailing vendors.

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