Post # 1
I’m about to start a master’s program for Occupational therapy that I wasn’t expecting to get in to ( I was wait listed). I had planned to get married next summer (we aren’t engaged yet but we have picked out a ring) but now that I’m starting the program in the fall, I don’t know what to do. It’s a fast track program with very few breaks. The most opportune time to tie the know would probably be on my 2 week christmas break. It’s a two year program that’s in another city and I will be moving. Have any of you married while in a grad program? Did it negatively affect your financial aid? Did it distract you from your studies or drag down your grades? Did your marriage suffer due to you being in school?
P.S. He does not have a degree and is not planning on getting one any time soon. He’s got a trade though and he works full time.
This topic was modified 5 years, 10 months ago by OTtobe.
Post # 2
So are you going to be long distance for 2 years while you are in school or is he moving with you? I think that will make a big difference. I, personally, would not want to get married while in a long distance situation, grad school or not.
With that said, I’m finishing up my 4th year as a PhD student and I got married this past Christmas Break. I can’t say it has effected much of anything, but I’m also not taking classes anymore. I doubt it would have taken away from my classes if I was though, but really, nothing would prevent me from getting good grades, I’m a very driven student. If you are an easily distracted student, then planning a wedding could distract you from your studies. I don’t get any financial aid as a grad student anyway, aside from the option of student loans, so my financial aid was not effected. I say do what you want to do as long as you can afford it. Grad school isn’t that much different from having a real job as far as time and effort go, you just make less money (or no money, or pay money) to do it.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t do it. I’m in a grad program right now and very minimally planning our wedding (working on the fun stuff a bit) and it’s already a bit much. I can’t imagine full blown wedding planning during the madness of grad school. A girl in my program planned her wedding and had her wedding while in the program and she couldn’t wait for her wedding to be over for her to finally not have to worry about it anymore. She was beyond stressed and it seemed like she wasn’t having any fun with the whole process. I think her work suffered and she also couldn’t put all her energy into the wedding either. I’d say hold off.
Post # 4
First of all, congrats! Fellow OT here, you’ve picked an awesome career 🙂 I got engaged toward the end of my program and did the majority of planning during my full-time fieldwork, which was definitely manageable. One classmate of mine was engaged prior to beginning the program and got married during the 4 week summer break between Year 1 & 2, another got married during a 2-week break between fieldwork rotations. They were able to balance planning with schoolwork but are both very organized and driven people (aka not procrastinators). All of my classmates as well as myself that got engaged during the program planned our weddings for the year following graduation. Personally I would not rush into planning or stress about timing until A) you’re “officially” engaged and B) you start the program to see how much time you have to devote to planning. There’s nothing wrong with having a longer engagement, especially if you and your husband-to-be will not be living in the same city while you complete school. Good luck!
Post # 5
I think if you were planning the wedding where you are going to school it could be do-able. But if you were trying to plan remotely it may be a bit more of a challenege. But you know what you are capable of! I hope you have a fun time and congratulations on the exciting things in store for you 🙂
Post # 6
Just to update on my situation (thank you for all the well thought out replies <3) I am getting married on winter break. I am going to do as much as I can this summer and my family and his are going to take it from there. It’s a family wedding so pretty small and I don’t really want anything too extravagant. Also, I’ve decided to do an afternoon wedding to make it less formal. December 19th! I get out of school on the 11th and go back January 6th so we’re doing a deferred honeymoon. We are having it at his family’s church (mine is too small and my grandmother’s doesn’t allow dancing) so they aren’t charging us to use the venue. I’m lucky to have a lot of enthusiatic, talented family members including a seamstress, two photographers, a pastor to marry us, a cake maker, and hair and makeup artists. He let it slip the other day that he purchased the ring I picked out so it’ll be soon that it’s official. We sat down with my mom the other day to start planning!
I’m sure it’ll be a lot to deal with but I just want to be married. I didn’t want to do it at the courthouse though so I’m trying to keep it small and casual without resorting to that although that’s always an option. Thank you so so much ladies for all your input!
Post # 7
Have fun! Im sure you will enjoy doing the fun bridal things in your free time and leaving the stressful stuff to family. You are so lucky Congrats!
Post # 8
I’m so excited to begin this grad school adventure I am so looking forward to my career! Glad to have a fellow OT here!~
Post # 9
Call me crazy, but I honestly didn’t find planning a wedding to be THAT hard unless you plan to DIY everything and have a lot of projects that need to be accomplished.
I’m not in grad school, but I am a wedding photographer, who got married smack in the middle of my busy wedding season…..so definitely similar in that I have a packed calendar and limited free time. I can relate to having a short break. I had a wedding 2 weeks before mine, and 2 the weekend after.
So much of wedding planning these days is done online – emailing vendors. Heck, even my contracts these days are all electronic. I work with a lot of people from out of town, and we skype or facetime for meetings because they’re too busy for an in person meeting. I think the amount of time spent online doing other things (facebook, the bee, etc) could just as easily be spent emailing vendors.