Post # 1
I’m just curious how many of you graduate students (masters, PhD, others) are inviting your advisor to the wedding? I’m inviting mine and I’m trying to imagine him at the reception… would he dance? joke around with everyone? He’s like 60-something and awesome but I’ve never really been in a non-research environment with him so it should be pretty interesting. hehe
Post # 3
Ya I think I will! He invited me to his wedding last summer and I am inviting the fellow PhD students from the lab and so I think it just makes sense.
However, My supervisor is 40 and is super fun and hangs out with the grad students all the time!
Post # 4
I’m having a destination wedding so no. But I will be sending him an announcement and invite to our at home reception. I know he won’t come, but I think its a nice gesture. After all, he is your boss!! I’m not extremely close with my advisor but I have known him for the last 4 years so I feel its just the right thing to do for me! I will also be sending annoucements/invites to AHR to my labmates.
Post # 5
we arent budy-budy, but we have a very good professional relationship, more like very close coleagues. we’re inviting my advisor as well as a couple other people from my PhD program.
Post # 6
haha, I don’t like my advisor very much, so it’s a non-issue for me. But I might be a little jealous of those of you who are friendly with yours….
Post # 7
Fiance and two of his mentors for his honors thesis are close, so they’re getting invited. The wedding is four hours away from them though so we know they won’t come.
Post # 8
I would have, except we had only our parents at the actual ceremony, and are having three receptions (in my hometown, my husband’s home country, and the city we now live in). For the final one, we are only inviting our friends–family went to one of the others–so he’d be the oldest person there by about 20 years, and I think it would be awkward. It’s too bad, though, because he’s a great guy. I would absolutely have done it if we had a more traditional wedding.
Post # 9
I’m out of grad school for about 2 years now but my advisor (and 2 of my committee members) are on my list. They’re all fantastic people and we get along personally and professionally.
Post # 10
We’re not buddy-buddy, but I think inviting him is the appropriate thing to do!
Post # 11
I’ve finished my PhD. I am inviting only my committee chair, even though I had three very involved advisors. He was my advisor from day one and is the kind of prof who really cares about his students and their lives outside their dissertations. (for example, when I broke my ankle, he showed up the hospital with our people’s version “soul food,” bagels, lox, and cream cheese.) My advisor and his wife are attending. Fiance invited his diss chair, but we do not expect him to come.
Post # 12
I didn’t invite any.
We didn’t have a small wedding (about 120 people) but when we tried to count in work people it just completely got to be too many between my husband and I. I had just finished up my PhD and started a new lab and had three advisors there and an advisor here and all the labmates and their SOs – ack! It would have added a good 30 more people and I couldn’t really see inviting my adivsors and not labmates.
So work people were out. We hang out after work sometimes and are all friends but for our wedding we really just kept it to family and very close friends. .
Post # 13
I’m having a pretty big wedding, but I’m not inviting my PhD advisor. He’s nice and everything, but I really just feel like him being there would add a tone to my day that I just don’t want.
Post # 14
I have never even seen my advisor in person so I would say no. But honestly, is he a friend? Because if not, why would you invite him?
Post # 15
I invited the director of my program (it’s a really intimate program–she’s taught 2 of our classes and I only have about 10 people in my program). She wasn’t able to attend–but I wasn’t upset about it! I really only invited her because she had mentioned everyone in the class plus her attending. I felt a little obligated. I’m the youngest person in my program by about 10+ years and she made sure I knew how she felt about that…we’re not best friends 🙂
Post # 16
We aren’t close, but my Fiance and I met in our PhD program, and we BOTH had the same advisor. I’m currently still in the program while he graduated, and he wanted to invite another quasi-faculty member who the advisor works closely with, so we are inviting our advisor. I doubt that he will come since its across the country, but we thought we should ask. It’s a pretty small wedding (under 90 people), so he’s one of our few “courtesy invites”, but I thought it was best. Plus, he’s a very nice guy and I think he’ll feel be happy to be invited & will be happy for the two of us. Plus I know I have relatives that would love to talk to him if he does come, I’m sure he will have a nice time & it won’t be uncomfortable for him.