(Closed) Grad Students- Are you/Did you invite your mentor to your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you/ Did you invite your mentor to your wedding?
    I did/will invite my mentor-but we were close personally : (6 votes)
    50 %
    I did/will invite my mentor-and we were not close personally : (3 votes)
    25 %
    I did not/will not invite my mentor, please explain your reasoning : (3 votes)
    25 %
    You should invite him and his wife (But I haven't been in this situation) : (0 votes)
    You should not invite him and his wife(But I haven't been in this situation) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3686 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m not inviting mine (we don’t get along), but my fiance is inviting his, and I’m inviting the person that I consider a surrogate mentor.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I did, but we were more like family than coworkers.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    i am going to. i don’t especially like him, but i do think it’s more polite to invite them. plus i’m inviting the other members of my lab, so there will be a table that he will feel comfortable at. 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yep, I did! I am finishing my PhD in June and my wedding is in September. We aren’t best friends or anything, as she is over twice my age, but we are pretty close and I wouldn’t consider not inviting her!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I did! It felt a little awkward because he’s my supervisor and all, but I think it worked out ok. He came and it seemed like he and his wife had a good time.

    ETA: I also invited other lab members, so it felt weird not to invite my advisor as well.

    Post # 8
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    2 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    My fiancé and I are not inviting his advisor to our wedding.  They have a decent working relationship, but it’s not great, mostly because the advisor is aware of my fiancé’s research interests, on which he’s published papers and a book chapter, but is still trying to push him into working more in the field the advisor works in (it’s related, but still different).  In addition, his advisor is…eccentric.  You never know what will come out of his mouth when he randomly walks up and starts talking to you.  I’ve had to hear about his health problems and the time he ate a whole plate of brownies his college roommate had laced with several types of drugs.  That could get awkward for everybody pretty fast.

    Post # 9
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    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not.  I’m a non traditional student, since I also work full time 1.5 hours away.  And our wedding is 3 hours from campus.  

    Post # 10
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    FI’s mentor will probably be invited. He will be in his fourth year the year of the wedding, and I’m sure they will be close by then. the wedding is 3 hours away, though, so I do not expect them to attend, and it will be a very small wedding (under 100)

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